I went over and told them my side of the story and all the things that happened in the past six months, including the replacement. The friends acts as if it's a 'normal' divorce, where a couple decides they can't live together anymore.
As these “friends” still see him as that mister nice guy, despite his adultery, it says a lot about their moral and ethical standards, won’t it?
That must be enough for you to stop seeing them.
As you noticed yourself already, there are no “mutual” friends in case of a break up! (not even with “normal” break ups, the web is full of those stories) Every one chooses a side, not now, eventually they will.
The close mutual friends we had, I have now. Not because of being that nice guy, because due to my efforts to invest in friendships. Exw was let’s say different in maintaining contact. Also the day after exw blew 30+ yrs. up, I contacted these friends one by one.
Other “friends”? Do not bother to invest, it’s a waste of time.
Maybe to protect yourself even more, think about social media. Block him on FB (the one who blocks is in charge)
In order to protect myself I took several precautions. Blocked several persons in our community and her social circle, of whom I knew they (could) have contact with exw (all as precaution).
The result? Nor ex, nor others in her circle know anything about me.
The result? Ex and her family couldn’t control their desperate curiosity. So ex and her sister recently visited my
my Linkedin profile (which has very limited exposure). However with a max. of stupidity exposed, they logged on to their account, enabling me to see who recently visited mine.
And for that purpose I broke NC… I mailed ex and her sister, incl. the screenshots of their visit “just” asking for the reason why they couldn’t control their desperate curiosity. No answer expected or received.
Try to rely on those you trust and have shown so in the past, concentrate on them.
