UBPDxw already getting remarried.

[Gmoney]

So we split 1st of this year.   And D final sept 3.   We have 3 kids and my D5 told me told she wants "charlie" the BF to be her step dad.  When I ask my S12 why she would say that he tells me his mom told them that she and her BF are talking about getting married.  Backstory.  She went on one online date. ONE with this guy she met in Dec 2013 now getting married. Im not all that bothered by it bc I knew it was coming.  Poor fool has no idea what he is instore for.  NONE! But what does bother me is D5 telling me at night she misses the BF.  That one hurt.  And kids only meet him in july.  I will chalk that up to her being young.  At least kids say he is nice to them and thats what my T told me told. At least kids like him and you knew it was coming. I told my T she is Nostradamus bc she called what was going to happen.  I feel bad that she getting 75k from me per the D out if my 401k and when I add it all up it really is alot more. At least I have 60% custody of S12 S10 D5.  So there is that.  Just a worldwind of a year.  Divorved after 12yrs married together 15yrs.  And soon to be remarried.  Crazy crazy crazy.  What does all this say about the BF? That he is weak?

Kinda just rambling now that my thoughts are all over the place.  Lucky for me I can turn to these boards for support.   

[Rifka]

She doesn't really know him, he might be borderline as well! Who marries somebody after one meet up unless it's a family culture.

Something doesn't sound right!

[Gmoney]

She been dating since December.  But the story is when we decided to divorce se went on one date with this one guy she met online (match)

[mywifecrazy]

Gmoney,

I know EXACTLY how you feel. I was married to uBPDxw for18'yrs 2 kids (S9/S14). Caught her in bed with neighbor Fathers Day 2013. She split. Divorce settled Dec 2013. She is now moved in across the street with this dude. THEY MOVE QUICK DONT THEY! She gave me Primary custody of kids and only sees them every other weekend.

No matter how sick it is or how painful you are better off without the disorder. Let her new BF deal with it now. It may all seam like roses for him know but we all know what he's in store for.

Take good care of those kids. Focus on them and you . Forget her. The kids will unfortunately learn about her disorder as she will be putting all her focus on the new BF and neglecting the kids emotionally. Just love your kids with everything you have. They need you Dad. More now than ever.

There is hope brother. Even though my kids are dealing with their Mom abandoning them WE have such a close bond with each other that was forged in the fire of my uBPDxw leaving us. I wouldn't trade what I have with my boys for anything.

Good luck to you.

MWC... .