Here is the back story from some of my previous posts: "In a nutshell, I know that my wife is cheating on me with my roommate (now former best friend). This has been going on for at least a couple weeks. I made a very long post about it on the Undecided Board, which you can read here:
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=235862.0While I am sad and disappointed in her behavior, I'm also very relieved that I now have a legit "get out of jail free" card in order to end this relationship. This worst part is that for a few months I have to act like everything is cool with my wife and roommate in order to get my finances in order so that I can file for divorce. I also don't want to have to deal with unnecessary drama, rages, and destruction of my property while I wait for my roommate's lease to be up this summer. "
So tonight I get the following message on Facebook from the roommate/replacement: "Hey, are you going to be home tonight? We need to sit down and talk. Things are obviously really awkward right now, and I want to try to fix them. I still care about you and want to stay friends, but I need to know what you want or need from me in order to make this work. Or at least know why exactly you're angry with me so I can do what I can.
I know you probably don't even want to talk to me, but it needs to happen. And I need you to be completely honest with me and not give me vague answers. I'm willing to listen to whatever you have to say. And if you want to leave the house to talk, that's fine, too.
I've considered you one of my closest friends over the past several years, and I'm not willing to let it go without a fight.
And hell, if you just want to punch the hell out of me, I'm fine with that, too, as long as you avoid breaking anything. I would rather not have to go to the hospital.
As a side note, I hope you've been doing alright. Getting worried about you."
MY response: "Yes, I will be home tonight. Maybe you need to talk, but I don’t. Not right now. Not anytime soon. Things are awkward. Perhaps you should take more time for some self-reflection on what you did to help contribute to the awkwardness instead of asking me. I’m not blaming you. I’m simply stating that your hands aren’t completely clean. No one’s hands in this house are clean.
What I need to do is take care of myself and not have other people tell me what I do or do not need.
I have considered you a close friend too for many years but you’re going to have to find some way to let things go. At least for a while anyways. There is nothing that can be said or done to make things better. I’d rather not waste my breath on such a conversation knowing the point is moot.
What you need to do is pay your rent on time. You need to do your share of work around the house. You need to be kind and honest to my wife and dogs, and you need to let me live in peace and solitude in my own home.
As I said, I’m not blaming you for any of this and I’m not out to hurt anyone. I just have a lot of pent up rage that I’m working through on my own and I don’t need any provocations right now. I will communicate with you openly about all of this eventually, just not right now."
I didn't think it was possible but I have officially entered an entirely new realm of crazy.
