The hurt over his new girl

[Depression = 72% of members]

Yeah mine is on a dating site too. He is with a new girl and on a dating site. Sigh. He is such a mess. I wish I could stop missing him.

Most of my friends went with him as his smear campaign has been pretty effective. Luckily I have a couple that didn't like him and distanced themselves from us so they have drifted back.

I feel such sorrow for him. He is hurting and I am hurting and there just seems to be no way to heal that hurt. How sad.

[hope2727]

Yeah mine is on a dating site too. He is with a new girl and on a dating site. Sigh. He is such a mess. I wish I could stop missing him.

Most of my friends went with him as his smear campaign has been pretty effective. Luckily I have a couple that didn't like him and distanced themselves from us so they have drifted back.

I feel such sorrow for him. He is hurting and I am hurting and there just seems to be no way to heal that hurt. How sad.

[Raybo48]

I was jealous over the dating sites at first until I realized that was pretty stupid considering she cheated on me while we were together.  Now that we are no longer together who the hell cares if she's on a dating site because I know exactly why she's doing it now that I fully understand the disorder.   

I wouldn't feel sorrow for him, I'd feel pity for him knowing he likely won't help himself now or in the future.  I really think it's important to understand this site is also here for us to look at ourselves, and our role in the rs.  We (including myself) focus so much on our ex that we won't let go of that and focus on ourselves.  We call complain (including myself) on how our ex seemingly controlled us, but what do most of us talk about on here when we miss them?  We want them to come back to us and we feel out of control of the situation.  We too want to control things, but just in a different way.  It's all about letting go, and that's what I keep trying to pound in my head.  Let go, and get on with living.  We cannot fix them, but we can fix ourselves.