Hey everyone! For once, I'm making a really positive post.
Seriously though, I just wanted to say thank you so much to all the members and board advisors here. I wouldn't have been able to make better choices these past couple years if it weren't for the support and comradery that is alive and well on these boards. As some of you may know, I'm about to file for divorce from my uBPDwife of 9 years. I'm still dealing with grieving and anger issues but things have gotten a lot better for me in the last few days. I recommitted to my sobriety and am going 5 days strong today, and feeling better than ever.
My family has gotten back in touch with me and I had a nice, long conversation with one of my sisters I've had some pretty big issues with over the years. We both decided to agree to disagree on the past and are working on moving forward in both of us supporting one an other. That was a huge relief to me. I didn't know she had the capacity to be so gracious and forgiving. Its truly a blessing to have familial support again. It brings me close to tears to think about how isolated I was from them.
Along with my recommitment to sobriety and being a better brother/son/uncle, I am also extremely committed to being a happier, healthier person. And with that I need to be aggressive and heavy-handed at dealing with my co-dependency issues. So that means I'm no longer giving too much airtime in my thoughts to my wife. What's done is done and there is no fixing her or our marriage. So, I'm going to be stepping away from posting to bpdfamily as much. I will definitely check in periodically to give updates on the divorce process and my progress in AA with working the steps; however, I'm done with giving anymore unnecessary attention to her mental health issues. Once again, thanks so much for all the support and I'll be in touch in a few weeks. Be strong and take good care of yourselves and the ones you love.
