Maybe we are like sisters? She keeps saying that I am her best friend
If she's idealizing yes. Be prepared to hear something different when she devaluates.
I am possessed by her. I must be ready for her needs, otherwise I will be the cruelest person who abandon her in her most needy situation.
I'm sorry you feel like she has sucked the life out of you. I think that NC is a good idea to emotionally detach, in time, your persepective may change. We control our feelings and emotions, another person does not control that.
I don’t have the courage to let her know that I will end the friendship. I am afraid she cannot understand my feelings.
Perhaps you're being avoidant? You can communicate your boundary and you have a choice not to communicate your boundary and go
no contact. I'm sorry you're struggling.
I feel depressed for several days. The memory that she brought back drowned me. I have not recovered from the painful ten years long trauma.
The first step is always the hardest.
Attachment leads to suffering. Detachment leads to freedom. I can't help but envision that her exbf would call me to ask where she is, just like he had ever done before, then I can tell him I will never get involved in their conflicts. I envision that one of our mutual friend will ask me about her, then I can tell him what is her true face.
You're not obligated to justify, explain or defend.
I can't change the past. I can express my anger, but don't do anything to revenge. It is OK to feel angry. Accept being angry. I can't keep angry for a long time. It will go.
I agree.
Anger is a normal part of life
Anger is an accurate signal of real problems in a person's life
Angry actions are screened carefully; you needn't automatically get angry just because you could
Anger is expressed in moderation so there is no loss of control
The goal is to solve the problems, not just to express anger
Anger is clearly stated in ways that others can understand
Anger is temporary. It can be relinquished once an issue is resolve
Hang in there.
--Mutt