Yes, stay strong.
I left her. I think it is about 2-months at the most with no contact for me.
I'm getting better although it seems strange to basically erase someone from ones life.
Christmas is hard for me. I sold the present I bought months ago on Kijiji yesterday.
I met someone who is gentle. That is nice. That is fun. This is new to me. I used to think those descriptors were boring. But they are great. There is nothing wrong with being happy.
I have toyed with the idea of meeting for coffee in the new year or sending her a Christmas email. I don't really think those things would do either of us any good.
My relationship with my son has never been better. Work is great. Everything isn't either good or evil. I see my counselor when I need to talk. A few key family members know the basics of what happened.
I was supposed to jet off to meet her parents on Monday.
Look, I'm new here too. But if you made a decision of no contact, my lay-opinion is to stick to it no matter how hard.
My Christmas wish:
I hope she is getting help she talked about. I hope she has a wonderful Christmas. I hope she is happier and successful.
We can't go back -- or even be friends for the foreseeable future. Too much damage was done.
Today I went to the University bookstore, in a free box outside was the course syllabus for the class she just taught. It is brilliant. I took it. I helped her a bit with it, but it is not mine. She was never really mine and I was losing myself. Everything seemed to be affected or motivated in some way by BPD.
I'm doing the best to keep on moving forward from this.
Take care of yourself first!