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Author Topic: Best response to the blocking/unblocking game?  (Read 868 times)
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« on: December 30, 2014, 09:53:04 AM »

My exBPD is playing the unblocking/blocking game online. I've completely ignored it, haven't blocked her from anything, and I don't have much temptation to check on her. But it bothers me that she can check up on me whenever she wants (i.e. she has control, as usual).

I'm tempted to block her so that I can regain a sense of control, but at the same time I don't want to give her the satisfaction of a response - which is what she's probably looking for. Am I doing the right thing here by totally ignoring everything?
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« Reply #1 on: December 30, 2014, 09:53:53 AM »

Yes, ignoring it is the best thing to do. I've been trapped in these games every time in the 10 times we've split up. Its not pretty, its petty.
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« Reply #2 on: December 30, 2014, 10:10:17 AM »

Yes, ignoring it is the best thing to do. I've been trapped in these games every time in the 10 times we've split up. Its not pretty, its petty.

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« Reply #3 on: December 30, 2014, 10:17:34 AM »

Yes, ignoring it is the best thing to do. I've been trapped in these games every time in the 10 times we've split up. Its not pretty, its petty.

I guess it depends on the situation. As the previous poster wrote, best not to engage in the game but what if she's regularly breaching the boundaries, reaching out while you're still in a vulnerable position?

I draw a line in the sand with the following intention: if she remains blocked then neither of us can play that petty game again.

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