SURVEY | Did your BPD partner cheat on you?

[AustenJ]

pwBPD are experts at gaslighting. She had an ex that she still saw on a weekly basis... .and I'm sure he had no idea she was seeing me over those 5 months. She said that he was her BFF as she had known him so long and that he had been there for her two suicide attempts, but it was strictly a platonic relationship at this time. She would say that she loved him, but that she was "in love" with me... .a huge difference in her mind.

She ultimately shared that between every failed relationship she would always return to this BFF as a girlfriend/lover. This occurred over 5 years after she initially moved to town with him after college, until the BFF moved across the country. Because of her strong attachment to this guy, she started sleeping with him again while still in our relationship and before he moved out of state. We were supposed to go on holiday over xmas break when she told me that instead she was flying out to see him for 10 days because she had always imagined herself being married to him, and she wanted to make sure that he was "the one."

Of course, he wasn't 'the one' as she raged at him and hit him on New Year's Eve when she was drunk. She came back, and I was no longer "the one" either. She met a guy a week late,r and he is "most definitely" the one. She's a lucky girl... .she's had 3 "the ones" in a span of about 3 weeks!

[southside420]

I learned after we split that she made out with someone after going to a bar with one of my girl friends. It made sense. After the night I suspect it happened, she began accusing me of cheating. She never admitted the cheating to me.