failed or failing

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

I don't think I failed, that term bothers me. I had enough that simple instead of giving something up I was heading toward something , and that was sanity,freedom,peace

[rarsweet]

I don't think I failed, that term bothers me. I had enough that simple instead of giving something up I was heading toward something , and that was sanity,freedom,peace

[wavelife]

I have felt like I failed my BPDw and our marriage many times and often found myself dissecting my behavior... .what if I had done this?  or didn't do this?  The truth is I fought harder for our marriage than I have for anything in my life.  It was a moving target that changed daily and shy of being as perfect as Jesus Christ I did not stand a chance.  I was not perfect but I was not a bad man, and showed love consistently while getting nothing in return.

Now its not a matter of feeling like I failed... .It was inevitable.  Now its just acceptance and a knowing that I will be a healthier happier me in a little time.  These are not normal relationships where there can be acknowledgment of their actions or forgiveness for yours.  A healthy relationship can get by hiccups in the relationship... .not in one of these.

I always believed Love could conquer all and I believe it still can... .but with only one person in the relationship feeling love its just pain.

You didn't fail... .like you said you are moving towards a better place.

[rarsweet]

Amen