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« Reply #30 on: March 14, 2015, 08:36:24 AM »

68 with these two being 6's.

I am bothered by intense stimuli, like loud noises or chaotic scenes. When I must compete or be observed while performing a task, I become so nervous or shaky that I do much worse than I would otherwise
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« Reply #31 on: March 15, 2015, 07:19:20 PM »

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I knew I'd score high but I didn't expect this high.

I am a massive introvert who has learned to behave like an extrovert

 Oh, I feel you so much on this.

^^^Me too. This describes me to a T. So it makes sense that my only 0 answer was to this question: When I must compete or be observed while performing a task, I become so nervous or shaky that I do much worse than I would otherwise. I actually perform quite well under pressure though the time leading up to it I am literally sick to my stomach. My work requires me to 'perform' in front of large groups of people on a daily basis, which I guess is a bit odd for an aspergery extreme introvert like myself. 
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« Reply #32 on: March 18, 2015, 04:31:51 PM »

yikes! 119.

I would like to change the affected by other peoples moods to a 20  

no wonder it was a horrific experience with my ex who is a rageaholic
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« Reply #33 on: March 18, 2015, 06:28:11 PM »

60

I scored 60.  If i took this test 10 years or so ago, I would have scored higher.  several of the things I scored in the three range would have been much higher back when my PTSD symptoms were greater.
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« Reply #34 on: March 18, 2015, 10:56:40 PM »

106

I read the book several years ago, and took a similar test in the book and scored high there also.

Interesting to see all the other scores, and the comments. I recognize myself in many of them.

Anyone who is scoring high and hasn't read the book -- I recommend it. There were lots of eye-openers. I really had the 'I've found My People' feeling after that book -- about the same intensity as finding myself as a non here.

I remember there were two books about this by Aaron -- 'The Highly Sensitive Person In Love' was also helpful. Maybe there are more by now.
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« Reply #35 on: May 14, 2015, 01:46:26 AM »

182

Far out I got 182! How am I even functioning?

Had a chuckle about some of them though.  :)o not startle me, I will scream very loudly and then get very angry.  I will get startled by my husband walking into the bathroom Smiling (click to insert in post)  I think it is because I have very intense inner self relationship.  Whenever by myself I withdraw into my private world so will get a fright when someone 'suddenly' pops up.

Concerts, crowds no way!  Even if my kids are constantly making noise and bombarding me with questions can raise my levels of anxiety that i impose quiet time for myself.  They are very good as when Mummy asks for some quiet Mummy time they comply.  
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« Reply #36 on: May 14, 2015, 10:27:50 AM »

121 here! 

My T has brought up several times that she thinks I might be an HSP. Before I began therapy, a friend that I share a lot of personality traits with had mentioned that she thought she was an HSP and so we share articles about it with each other and discuss it. It makes a lot of sense and knowing about it has helped me deal with the effects of it and really care for myself in overwhelming situations.
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« Reply #37 on: December 29, 2016, 06:05:50 PM »

Surprisingly high at 91

Definitely struggling haha. The questions about sound/other sensory stimulus really hit me. I'm a very quiet person and my FriendwBPD is an unintentionally loud person in the regular course of things (listens to things at louder volumes, sings to herself), gets louder and door-slammy when she is raging, loudly scratches/hits herself when she is in the shame spiral... .As you can imagine the added stimulus just makes a bad situation worse for me trying to deal with it.
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« Reply #38 on: December 30, 2016, 09:30:54 PM »

I scored a 59.

I think it seems a little high. I wouldn't consider myself a person that is too easily swayed by my environment so much anymore. Or perhaps it is accurate, and I just don't respond so maladaptively. I've done a lot of work in this department in the last several years.

I also wouldn't say that either of my parents are high on the cluster-b spectrum, but there definitely were and are traits there that I can't help but notice nowadays.
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« Reply #39 on: January 02, 2017, 10:57:55 AM »

91   
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« Reply #40 on: February 03, 2017, 09:23:21 AM »

50

I am married to an uBPDw, of the waif variety.  One of the problems that cycles around is that I am aware now that she has a super-high need for validation, whereas, I may not mean to be "normal" but I just don't pick up on her needs as much as she'd like.  In the past, I would have taken that as meaning I should do more, but, in my present mindset, I'll take just being normal and not hyper-sensitive to her needs and sensitive about everything to give her validation.  
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« Reply #41 on: July 02, 2017, 09:52:45 PM »

89 a lot higher than i anticipated :/
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« Reply #42 on: July 03, 2017, 01:14:48 PM »

141

141 here, super high! My therapist suggested recently that I might be a Highly Sensitive Person. I would agree that I definitely am and always have been. I am the child of a BPD father and very anxious mother, and now married to a man with BPD. I get over stimulated easily, and now that I quit smoking pot every day I feel it even more. (I also cope with it better sober). Now I am a teacher too and some of my students are children who are clearly HSP or have other sensory issues.

Things that help me are self-care, having my own room or a quiet place to withdraw to, gardening and spending time in nature, solo artist dates, and writing.
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« Reply #43 on: July 03, 2017, 11:41:57 PM »

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Didn't expect to be 'highly sensitive' and it is pretty subjective and dependent on one's interpretation of the questions. On the other hand, there must be some kind of sensitivity towards other people, because what I noticed in BPD person (and his now girlfriend) is an ability to pick up emotions and focus on people which I seldom see in others. We have often talked about it, that there was a kind of emotional 'recognition'. He is also extremely sensitive to music and can't stand sounds he doesn't like. I may not like things but can block them out.
Being easily startled (which I am) can also come from experience - sometimes you have to move fast to get out of harm's way.
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« Reply #44 on: July 04, 2017, 01:06:55 AM »

110. Yikes.
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« Reply #45 on: July 09, 2017, 06:38:47 AM »

126 folks, not good is it?
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« Reply #46 on: July 09, 2017, 02:08:32 PM »

65.  

I don't take negative stimuli (noise!) as err, negatively as I used to. Meaning I don't suspect the volume is high merely to annoy ME.  Now capable of believing that the volume is high because other person unaware that another might feel bad in that situation.  Heck, that other person might be positively stimulated by 97 decibels of bass, although hard to really believe!  More difficult is turning off the awareness of emotions simmering in others, good or bad.  Those are tiring, or painful.
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« Reply #47 on: July 09, 2017, 02:48:09 PM »

92, although suspect I may have gone a bit on the low side with some of these... .No surprises to me there.  Makes total sense.  :)on't think that being highly sensitive is necessarily a negative thing if you spin it on it's head.  :)id an EIQ test online yesterday and came in the top 5%.
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« Reply #48 on: July 20, 2017, 10:51:25 PM »

148

I got a 148 = sensitive for sure
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« Reply #49 on: August 02, 2017, 03:10:38 PM »

135.

HSP and proud of it (or trying to choose to be  .
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« Reply #50 on: August 08, 2017, 07:45:46 AM »

My score was well over 80.

I knew it would be high, but I'm still surprised at just how high...  I'm currently working on grounding skills to increase my ability to cope with overload. I work with the public and I need some upgrades in my skill set. However, I often find myself utilizing these qualities to improve specific things in my life. Sensitivity can be somewhat manageable, for me, I think.
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« Reply #51 on: August 08, 2017, 09:35:37 AM »

127  My therapist gave me this same test and I scored similar - that was 3 years ago, so I guess that is pretty much me!
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« Reply #52 on: August 09, 2017, 01:56:37 PM »

117,

and the high scores just keep on coming. Way to go Pedro.
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« Reply #53 on: August 24, 2017, 04:51:23 PM »

85 - interesting, I thought it would not be that high.  Am doing well now, dd's past teen storminess and growing up, can be kind, sensitive and loving as adults (though still need validation/have deep vulnerabilities).  Went through a very painful period for several years but at the moment (knock on wood) feel pretty happy.  I do think my own sensitivity made it harder to cope and made me much more reactive than would have been good, at times!
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« Reply #54 on: August 30, 2017, 11:16:08 PM »

I got 96
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« Reply #55 on: September 04, 2017, 03:12:17 AM »

My score is 45. When I was in my 20s it probably would have been 60++ but guess I've mellowed.
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« Reply #56 on: September 04, 2017, 08:53:07 AM »

63.  Still feeling some effects from BPD breakup in May.
I would say that thankfully I've been on a positive upward trend since she moved out in July. 
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« Reply #57 on: January 12, 2018, 09:29:27 AM »

I'm new to this site and hoping to get support.  Just took this test and scored a 100 - does that mean I have an A for the class?  (I am not belittling the fact that I am super sensitive, just trying to lighten my load a little!)
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« Reply #58 on: January 12, 2018, 11:18:36 AM »

It means you get to sit in the room with 54% of  those that took the test and scored above 80%  Being cool (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #59 on: January 13, 2018, 09:58:36 PM »

I am replying to Skip (hopefully) - thank you for your support!
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