Skip
Site Director
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Posts: 7030
|
|
« on: March 09, 2015, 12:04:09 PM » |
|
Survey for Adult Children of a BPD or NPD Parent.This is a test developed by Elaine Aron, PhD. Aron is best known for her book "The Highly Sensitive Person " a national best seller with over 1 million copies printed. It is a very simple test to take ... . What is your total score? Let us know in the poll above and tell us (post) whether you feel good or are you struggling from effects of the BP relationship? 0= Not at all 1-2=Somewhat 3=Moderately 4-5=A lot 6=Extremely ------ ___ ___ ___ ___ ___ ___ ___ ___ ___ ___ ___ ___ ___ ___ ___ ___ ___ ___ ___ ___ ___ ___ ___ ___ ___ ___ ___
| -------------------------------------------------------- I am easily overwhelmed by strong sensory input. I seem to be aware of subtleties in my environment. Other people’s moods affect me. I tend to be very sensitive to pain. On busy days, I will withdraw and seek temporary privacy or relief from stimulation. I am particularly sensitive to the effects of caffeine. I am easily overwhelmed by things like bright lights, strong smells, coarse fabrics, sirens. I have a rich, complex inner life. I am made uncomfortable by loud noises. I am deeply moved by the arts or music. My nervous system sometimes feels so frazzled that I just have to go off by myself. I am conscientious. I startle easily. I get rattled when I have a lot to do in a short amount of time. When people are physically uncomfortable in a space, I know what needs to be done to be comfortable (change temperature, light, seating). I am annoyed when people try to get me to do too many things at once. I try hard to avoid making mistakes or forgetting things. I make a point to avoid violent movies and TV shows. I become unpleasantly aroused when a lot is going on around me. Being very hungry creates a strong reaction in my mood or ability to concentrate. Changes in my life shake me up. I notice and enjoy delicate or fine scents, tastes, sounds, works of art. I find it unpleasant to have a lot going on at once. I make it a high priority to arrange my life to avoid upsetting or overwhelming situations. I am bothered by intense stimuli, like loud noises or chaotic scenes. When I was a child, my parents or teachers saw me as sensitive or shy. When I must compete or be observed while performing a task, I become so nervous or shaky that I do much worse than I would otherwise.
| Scoring: If you answers total 61 or more, you are probably highly sensitive. But no psychological test is so accurate that an individual should base his or her life on it. If fewer questions are true of you, but extremely true, that might also justify calling you highly sensitive.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
|
ColdEthyl
|
|
« Reply #2 on: March 09, 2015, 01:30:25 PM » |
|
whoa ok... .I got 101.
This might sound stupid, but I thought I might get high but not... .through the roof high. I know I don't multitask well, I hate having a lot of things to do and not getting them done in the time frame I think they should have been, and I do always try my best to never make any mistakes.
When I was a child I used to have panic attacks. I would 'forget' to breathe and my vision would go dark, I couldn't hear I would get dizzy and need to sit down. My parents always just said I was a spaz and something was wrong with me.
I don't think this is from being in a r/s with a pwBPD, but I'm sure it isn't helping anything.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
tjay933
|
|
« Reply #3 on: March 09, 2015, 01:50:09 PM » |
|
54
Sounds low compared to others so far. how do I feel about the BPD relationship-some days are great, others not so great. depends on the most recent contact with my BPDh. when he's going up the scale, I feel more vulnerable. days that he is good-I feel strong and healthy.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
Cat Familiar
Retired Staff
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
Posts: 7501
|
|
« Reply #4 on: March 09, 2015, 01:57:27 PM » |
|
I got 83.
I knew I'd test high since I took another version of this test before. Yes, I was an extremely frightened and sensitive kid. I'm less so as an adult, thanks to therapy and just being desensitized by life. I had my husband take the other test and he didn't rate as highly sensitive, which surprised me. He's very moved by art and music (me, not nearly as much) and he's so highly tuned into any possible criticism by others.
I hate loud music, construction noise, cities in general. And I tend to focus on one thing--having my attention divided is really annoying. I can't read if a radio is playing and I can't speak on the phone if my husband is trying to simultaneously tell me something.
|
|
|
Logged
|
“The Four Agreements 1. Be impeccable with your word. 2. Don’t take anything personally. 3. Don’t make assumptions. 4. Always do your best. ” ― Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom
|
|
|
Panda39
|
|
« Reply #5 on: March 09, 2015, 03:22:14 PM » |
|
100Absolutely no surprise to me. I had complete meltdowns in dressing rooms as a kid if clothes were not comfortable, my brother chomping (I mean chewing ) his food drove me nuts, and I remember getting hyperventilating hysterical watching a documentary about wolves where some of the pups were eaten by predators! :'( As an adult I am more aware of my sensitivities and can usually manage them just fine or I just go with it. I know for example that after a certain point being in a crowd will get to be to much for me, when I get there I leave. My SO is very good at being able to tell when I need something to eat. I still bawl like a baby at the movies or watching TV and music can make me cry too. But please do not turn on the TV while I'm trying to listen to music! Then it's too much stimulation
|
|
|
Logged
|
"Have you ever looked fear in the face and just said, I just don't care" -Pink
|
|
|
Rockylove
|
|
« Reply #6 on: March 09, 2015, 06:57:33 PM » |
|
89
I kinda figured it would be up there. I was diagnosed about 10 years ago with fibromyalgia and sensitivity is part of the syndrome. I'm like the princess and the pea... .I can't stand to have even a crumb in the bed or I can't sleep. I suffered with debilitating anxiety attacks, get extremely blue in the winter and repetitive noise will drive me out of my mind!
Being an artist, I'm very moved by art and music... .seems natural to me.
I think that was part of the attraction I had for my husband... .he is sensitive toward many of the same things as I am.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
OffRoad
|
|
« Reply #7 on: March 09, 2015, 07:15:41 PM » |
|
My score was 38.
What is funny is there were very few "moderately" for me. I am extremely conscientious, am deeply moved by the arts or music and other people's moods affect me, but I am not sensitive to pain at all, I don't usually get rattled when I have a lot to do in a short amount of time and changes don't normally bother me.
My son's score, on the other hand, was 123.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
Skip
Site Director
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Posts: 7030
|
|
« Reply #8 on: March 10, 2015, 01:19:31 AM » |
|
39
51% of the questions I answered as 0. The remaining 49% averaged a 3. The highest score was 5, "I am conscientious".
I would consider myself to be sensitive but not impaired by it which seems to fit the score.
Interesting test.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
Turkish
BOARD ADMINISTRATOR
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Other
Relationship status: "Divorced"/abandoned by SO in Feb 2014; Mother with BPD, PTSD, Depression and Anxiety: RIP in 2021.
Posts: 12179
Dad to my wolf pack
|
|
« Reply #9 on: March 10, 2015, 01:29:44 AM » |
|
24-26.
I wonder how much my avoidant traits contribute to the low score... .
|
|
|
Logged
|
| | | “For the strength of the Pack is the Wolf, and the strength of the Wolf is the Pack.” ― Rudyard Kipling |
|
|
|
misty_red
Offline
What is your sexual orientation: Gay, lesb
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Posts: 159
|
|
« Reply #10 on: March 10, 2015, 01:47:52 AM » |
|
106
Doesn't surpirse me at all. I'm highly sensitive due to my aspergers.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
Targeted
Formerly CaresAboutSomeoneLikeThis
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Posts: 445
|
|
« Reply #11 on: March 10, 2015, 06:10:53 AM » |
|
36 am I in trouble now?
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
DyingLove
|
|
« Reply #12 on: March 10, 2015, 07:16:23 AM » |
|
88 for me.
I think I could have pushed and got a few extra points, but I based everything on a non-crisis kind of day. :-)
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
going places
|
|
« Reply #13 on: March 10, 2015, 08:20:27 AM » |
|
I am a 53
0= Not at all 1-2=Somewhat 3=Moderately 4-5=A lot 6=Extremely
3. I am easily overwhelmed by strong sensory input.
6. I seem to be aware of subtleties in my environment.
2. Other people’s moods affect me.
2. I tend to be very sensitive to pain.
3. On busy days, I will withdraw and seek temporary privacy or relief from stimulation.
0. I am particularly sensitive to the effects of caffeine.
0. I am easily overwhelmed by things like bright lights, strong smells, coarse fabrics, sirens.
0. I have a rich, complex inner life.
1. I am made uncomfortable by loud noises.
1. I am deeply moved by the arts or music.
3. My nervous system sometimes feels so frazzled that I just have to go off by myself.
6. I am conscientious.
6. I startle easily.
3. I get rattled when I have a lot to do in a short amount of time.
6. When people are physically uncomfortable in a space, I know what needs to be done to be comfortable (change temperature, light, seating).
2. I am annoyed when people try to get me to do too many things at once.
0. I try hard to avoid making mistakes or forgetting things.
0. I make a point to avoid violent movies and TV shows.
1. I become unpleasantly aroused when a lot is going on around me.
1. Being very hungry creates a strong reaction in my mood or ability to concentrate.
2. Changes in my life shake me up.
0. I notice and enjoy delicate or fine scents, tastes, sounds, works of art.
1. I find it unpleasant to have a lot going on at once.
2. I make it a high priority to arrange my life to avoid upsetting or overwhelming situations.
2. I am bothered by intense stimuli, like loud noises or chaotic scenes.
0. When I was a child, my parents or teachers saw me as sensitive or shy.
0. When I must compete or be observed while performing a task, I become so nervous or shaky that I do much worse than I would otherwise.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
iluminati
|
|
« Reply #14 on: March 10, 2015, 08:45:42 AM » |
|
My score was a 40.
Pretty middle of the road. It's what I expected, and based on how people view me, sounds about right.
|
|
|
Logged
|
He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.~ Matthew 5:45
|
|
|
DreamGirl
Retired Staff
Offline
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner’s ex
Posts: 4016
Do. Or do not. There is no try.
|
|
« Reply #15 on: March 10, 2015, 12:45:50 PM » |
|
73
If fewer questions are true of you, but extremely true, that might also justify calling you highly sensitive.
I had some really "extremely true" ones. Others were just moderate.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
lbjnltx
Retired Staff
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Child
Relationship status: widowed
Posts: 7757
we can all evolve into someone beautiful
|
|
« Reply #16 on: March 10, 2015, 02:28:03 PM » |
|
50
5's for "avoid making mistakes and forgetting" and "conscientious"
3 for "people watching me complete a task"
Don't like it ... .never have.
All the rest were 0,1,2
I could stand to be a little more sensitive to subtleties in my environment... .sometimes I think I am oblivious.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
Waifed
|
|
« Reply #17 on: March 10, 2015, 02:41:11 PM » |
|
64
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
Mutt
Retired Staff
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Relationship status: Divorced Oct 2015
Posts: 10396
|
|
« Reply #18 on: March 10, 2015, 02:49:58 PM » |
|
51
I answered 5 to I have a rich, complex inner life, in the context that I'm introverted and very self aware.
I also answered 5 to I make it a high priority to arrange my life to avoid upsetting or overwhelming situations.
I'm a level headed person and I'm not one that likes drama, I like peacefulness. Like many life was like a roller-coaster for several years and I want to maintain calmness; less chaotic day to day life.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
Zon
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
Relationship status: Married
Posts: 155
|
|
« Reply #19 on: March 10, 2015, 03:47:20 PM » |
|
117 Did I add that right? Well, there were a few sixes I thought could be sevens. I know I am sensitive. While I can "handle" distractions, loud noises and too many things at once, I can get very frazzled. I do not run for cover, but I do start messing up all that I am trying to get done. I get very snappy too. Loud noises are fine if part of something entertaining to me (i.e., action movies). One time, I had a job with a subwoofer near me with speakers in the room playing techno music. That was a very short job. When I started, that music was not there. I hate vacations unless it requires little to be done once there. I store a LOT of anxiety and stress to counter those events. I think I need to take some Tums thinking about it. P.S. My wife hates that I startle so easily. She takes it as an affront to her.
|
|
|
Logged
|
I'm not like other people, I can't stand pain, it hurts me. -- Daffy Duck
|
|
|
Woolspinner2000
Retired Staff
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Parent
Relationship status: Divorced
Posts: 2012
|
|
« Reply #20 on: March 10, 2015, 08:22:19 PM » |
|
103 I'm just a bit sensitive, I'd say. Lots of 6s on my list.
I always spot things in the outdoors on walks that no one else sees. Good eyes and ears! (Trying to stay positive about my sensitivity).
Woolspinner
|
|
|
Logged
|
| There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind. -C.S. Lewis |
|
|
|
littlebirdcline
Offline
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Parent
Posts: 88
|
|
« Reply #21 on: March 11, 2015, 01:28:11 PM » |
|
125
Ding! Ding! Ding! I guess I win the prize so far: 125!
I am a massive introvert who has learned to behave like an extrovert, so it does not surprise me at all. This seems like a cruel twist of fate when your mother has BPD and lacks any real insight and sensitivity.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
Stalwart
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
Relationship status: Married
Posts: 333
|
|
« Reply #22 on: March 11, 2015, 04:16:16 PM » |
|
66 and a bit surprised but happy with it. I didn't think I was that sensitive, but I'm willing to hold up to the score. Just out of respect to the question our relationship has really turned around into a far better, more harmonious and rewarding relationship together in the past two and half years than treading the flames of Dante's Inferno prior to that. I guess it takes a certain amount of sensitivity to accomplish that, so I'm proud of my score now.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
agoodperson
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
Posts: 37
|
|
« Reply #23 on: March 11, 2015, 05:22:00 PM » |
|
83 and struggling
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
HappyNihilist
|
|
« Reply #24 on: March 11, 2015, 10:40:18 PM » |
|
103 here. My T told me early on that I was a highly sensitive person, and I've found Aron's book very helpful. I don't see it as a bad or a good thing - it's just who I am. I really enjoy multitasking and juggling multiple projects; I'm not that bothered by change; I'm not very sensitive to pain; and violent movies are some of my favorite kinds. But I'm super-sensitive to external stimuli; moved by the arts; affected by others' moods; and deeply in need of alone time to recharge. I am a massive introvert who has learned to behave like an extrovert Oh, I feel you so much on this.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
Pingo
|
|
« Reply #25 on: March 12, 2015, 08:03:59 PM » |
|
129
Oh good Lord! I got 129! No wonder I want to go live in the mountains away from everyone and everything!
This is not a fun way to live. Yes I am thankful to be so aware of my surroundings and appreciative of art and nature and music, finding beauty in the smallest of things, being conscientious... .But getting stressed by loud noises, being so easily startled, being aware of everyone else's moods... .it's horrible. I actually avoid scenarios where I might be overwhelmed. Was I always this way? Yes but not to this degree. Since my r/s with my uBPDexh I have been left a nervous wreck. I have been doing a lot of work to dampen the nerves and not be so stressed. Outside of therapy, I walk everyday, try to get out in nature, I've been doing yoga and even a little meditating. It's helping but at a snail's pace. I really have to push myself to be social and get out with other people. I could easily curl up and live the life of a hermit but I know it's not healthy and I want to be healthy!
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
Painterly2014
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Posts: 31
|
|
« Reply #26 on: March 12, 2015, 09:43:03 PM » |
|
46
Maybe not being so sensitive is why I stayed in the BPD relationship until it almost did me in. 25 years in this marriage and I am a shell. I am really struggling with all of it. I have some ok days and many bad days between them. I cant seem to shake the sadness and fear even though I couldn't have gone on any longer with his behavior. I had to get out. Our house just sold last weekend that I am living in and I am moving across town to a new one in a few weeks. Its really nice but I cant get excited about it. He is with my replacement enjoying himself while I am stressed out and used up.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
Blimblam
|
|
« Reply #27 on: March 13, 2015, 10:05:08 AM » |
|
I have a score of 108.
I am not surprised. While I do enjoy high stimuli environments at times like at a concert if I like the music I generally avoid such environments. I would always jest I am allergic to modern society.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
Maternus
|
|
« Reply #28 on: March 13, 2015, 10:15:34 AM » |
|
97
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
Sunfl0wer
|
|
« Reply #29 on: March 14, 2015, 08:30:55 AM » |
|
96Lol, carefully, cautiously joining group hug! I never did that test before now. 96Many of the questions tend to target much of what I associate with my PTSD traits. Having issues with sensory stimuli, scary movies, in tune to things etc. What does it mean to be HSP It means I am much talented at relating to people at my job. I am also cautious and protective. Sometimes I can be more emotional than is helpful for me to be.
|
|
|
Logged
|
How wrong it is for a woman to expect the man to build the world she wants, rather than to create it herself.~Anais Nin
|
|
|
babyducks
|
|
« Reply #30 on: March 14, 2015, 08:36:24 AM » |
|
68 with these two being 6's.
I am bothered by intense stimuli, like loud noises or chaotic scenes. When I must compete or be observed while performing a task, I become so nervous or shaky that I do much worse than I would otherwise
|
|
|
Logged
|
What lies behind us and what lies ahead of us are tiny matters compared to what lives within us.
|
|
|
aubin
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Gay, lesb
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Posts: 111
|
|
« Reply #31 on: March 15, 2015, 07:19:20 PM » |
|
116I knew I'd score high but I didn't expect this high. I am a massive introvert who has learned to behave like an extrovert Oh, I feel you so much on this. ^^^Me too. This describes me to a T. So it makes sense that my only 0 answer was to this question: When I must compete or be observed while performing a task, I become so nervous or shaky that I do much worse than I would otherwise. I actually perform quite well under pressure though the time leading up to it I am literally sick to my stomach. My work requires me to 'perform' in front of large groups of people on a daily basis, which I guess is a bit odd for an aspergery extreme introvert like myself.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
Eco
|
|
« Reply #32 on: March 18, 2015, 04:31:51 PM » |
|
yikes! 119.
I would like to change the affected by other peoples moods to a 20
no wonder it was a horrific experience with my ex who is a rageaholic
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
Harri
Retired Staff
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Parent
Posts: 5981
|
|
« Reply #33 on: March 18, 2015, 06:28:11 PM » |
|
60
I scored 60. If i took this test 10 years or so ago, I would have scored higher. several of the things I scored in the three range would have been much higher back when my PTSD symptoms were greater.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
PrettyPlease
|
|
« Reply #34 on: March 18, 2015, 10:56:40 PM » |
|
106
I read the book several years ago, and took a similar test in the book and scored high there also.
Interesting to see all the other scores, and the comments. I recognize myself in many of them.
Anyone who is scoring high and hasn't read the book -- I recommend it. There were lots of eye-openers. I really had the 'I've found My People' feeling after that book -- about the same intensity as finding myself as a non here.
I remember there were two books about this by Aaron -- 'The Highly Sensitive Person In Love' was also helpful. Maybe there are more by now.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
happykiwi
Offline
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Parent
Relationship status: Married
Posts: 33
|
|
« Reply #35 on: May 14, 2015, 01:46:26 AM » |
|
182Far out I got 182! How am I even functioning? Had a chuckle about some of them though.  :)o not startle me, I will scream very loudly and then get very angry. I will get startled by my husband walking into the bathroom I think it is because I have very intense inner self relationship. Whenever by myself I withdraw into my private world so will get a fright when someone 'suddenly' pops up. Concerts, crowds no way! Even if my kids are constantly making noise and bombarding me with questions can raise my levels of anxiety that i impose quiet time for myself. They are very good as when Mummy asks for some quiet Mummy time they comply.
|
|
|
Logged
|
'Don't yell at the broken'
If you shut up truth and bury it under the ground, it will but grow, and gather to itself such explosive power that the day it bursts through it will blow up everything ...
|
|
|
oceaneyes
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Parent
Relationship status: Married
Posts: 49
|
|
« Reply #36 on: May 14, 2015, 10:27:50 AM » |
|
121 here!
My T has brought up several times that she thinks I might be an HSP. Before I began therapy, a friend that I share a lot of personality traits with had mentioned that she thought she was an HSP and so we share articles about it with each other and discuss it. It makes a lot of sense and knowing about it has helped me deal with the effects of it and really care for myself in overwhelming situations.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
catanaition
Offline
What is your sexual orientation: Gay, lesb
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Friend
Posts: 16
|
|
« Reply #37 on: December 29, 2016, 06:05:50 PM » |
|
Surprisingly high at 91
Definitely struggling haha. The questions about sound/other sensory stimulus really hit me. I'm a very quiet person and my FriendwBPD is an unintentionally loud person in the regular course of things (listens to things at louder volumes, sings to herself), gets louder and door-slammy when she is raging, loudly scratches/hits herself when she is in the shame spiral... .As you can imagine the added stimulus just makes a bad situation worse for me trying to deal with it.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
valet
Retired Staff
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Posts: 966
|
|
« Reply #38 on: December 30, 2016, 09:30:54 PM » |
|
I scored a 59.
I think it seems a little high. I wouldn't consider myself a person that is too easily swayed by my environment so much anymore. Or perhaps it is accurate, and I just don't respond so maladaptively. I've done a lot of work in this department in the last several years.
I also wouldn't say that either of my parents are high on the cluster-b spectrum, but there definitely were and are traits there that I can't help but notice nowadays.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
Curiously1
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Gay, lesb
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Posts: 390
|
|
« Reply #39 on: January 02, 2017, 10:57:55 AM » |
|
91
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
SamwizeGamgee
|
|
« Reply #40 on: February 03, 2017, 09:23:21 AM » |
|
50
I am married to an uBPDw, of the waif variety. One of the problems that cycles around is that I am aware now that she has a super-high need for validation, whereas, I may not mean to be "normal" but I just don't pick up on her needs as much as she'd like. In the past, I would have taken that as meaning I should do more, but, in my present mindset, I'll take just being normal and not hyper-sensitive to her needs and sensitive about everything to give her validation.
|
|
|
Logged
|
Live like you mean it.
|
|
|
roseangel95
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Parent
Relationship status: Serious Realtionship
Posts: 5
|
|
« Reply #41 on: July 02, 2017, 09:52:45 PM » |
|
89 a lot higher than i anticipated :/
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
Gardengoddess
Offline
What is your sexual orientation: Gay, lesb
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
Posts: 21
|
|
« Reply #42 on: July 03, 2017, 01:14:48 PM » |
|
141
141 here, super high! My therapist suggested recently that I might be a Highly Sensitive Person. I would agree that I definitely am and always have been. I am the child of a BPD father and very anxious mother, and now married to a man with BPD. I get over stimulated easily, and now that I quit smoking pot every day I feel it even more. (I also cope with it better sober). Now I am a teacher too and some of my students are children who are clearly HSP or have other sensory issues.
Things that help me are self-care, having my own room or a quiet place to withdraw to, gardening and spending time in nature, solo artist dates, and writing.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
foggydew
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Friend
Relationship status: widowed/7 years
Posts: 371
|
|
« Reply #43 on: July 03, 2017, 11:41:57 PM » |
|
63
Didn't expect to be 'highly sensitive' and it is pretty subjective and dependent on one's interpretation of the questions. On the other hand, there must be some kind of sensitivity towards other people, because what I noticed in BPD person (and his now girlfriend) is an ability to pick up emotions and focus on people which I seldom see in others. We have often talked about it, that there was a kind of emotional 'recognition'. He is also extremely sensitive to music and can't stand sounds he doesn't like. I may not like things but can block them out. Being easily startled (which I am) can also come from experience - sometimes you have to move fast to get out of harm's way.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
onelittleladybug
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Posts: 133
|
|
« Reply #44 on: July 04, 2017, 01:06:55 AM » |
|
110. Yikes.
|
|
|
Logged
|
-- There is no love without forgiveness and no forgiveness without love-- --You create what you focus on--
|
|
|
Pedro
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Relationship status: Separated, devastated, physically & mentally broken, but living in the same house until it is sold. Such profound loss & sadness of losing my soulmate, lover, best friend.
Posts: 324
|
|
« Reply #45 on: July 09, 2017, 06:38:47 AM » |
|
126 folks, not good is it?
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
twinbpd
Offline
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Sibling
Posts: 3
|
|
« Reply #46 on: July 09, 2017, 02:08:32 PM » |
|
65.
I don't take negative stimuli (noise!) as err, negatively as I used to. Meaning I don't suspect the volume is high merely to annoy ME. Now capable of believing that the volume is high because other person unaware that another might feel bad in that situation. Heck, that other person might be positively stimulated by 97 decibels of bass, although hard to really believe! More difficult is turning off the awareness of emotions simmering in others, good or bad. Those are tiring, or painful.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
Harley Quinn
Retired Staff
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Posts: 2839
I am exactly where I need to be, right now.
|
|
« Reply #47 on: July 09, 2017, 02:48:09 PM » |
|
92, although suspect I may have gone a bit on the low side with some of these... .No surprises to me there. Makes total sense.  :)on't think that being highly sensitive is necessarily a negative thing if you spin it on it's head.  :)id an EIQ test online yesterday and came in the top 5%.
|
|
|
Logged
|
| We are stars wrapped in skin. The light you are looking for has always been within. |
|
|
|
sweat pea
Fewer than 3 Posts
Offline
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Parent
Posts: 1
|
|
« Reply #48 on: July 20, 2017, 10:51:25 PM » |
|
148
I got a 148 = sensitive for sure
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
vanx
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Posts: 251
|
|
« Reply #49 on: August 02, 2017, 03:10:38 PM » |
|
135.
HSP and proud of it (or trying to choose to be  .
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
triangles
Fewer than 3 Posts
Offline
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
Posts: 2
|
|
« Reply #50 on: August 08, 2017, 07:45:46 AM » |
|
My score was well over 80.
I knew it would be high, but I'm still surprised at just how high... I'm currently working on grounding skills to increase my ability to cope with overload. I work with the public and I need some upgrades in my skill set. However, I often find myself utilizing these qualities to improve specific things in my life. Sensitivity can be somewhat manageable, for me, I think.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
Stjarna
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Relationship status: Divorced
Posts: 113
|
|
« Reply #51 on: August 08, 2017, 09:35:37 AM » |
|
127 My therapist gave me this same test and I scored similar - that was 3 years ago, so I guess that is pretty much me!
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
Pedro
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Relationship status: Separated, devastated, physically & mentally broken, but living in the same house until it is sold. Such profound loss & sadness of losing my soulmate, lover, best friend.
Posts: 324
|
|
« Reply #52 on: August 09, 2017, 01:56:37 PM » |
|
117,
and the high scores just keep on coming. Way to go Pedro.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
incadove
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Child
Posts: 291
|
|
« Reply #53 on: August 24, 2017, 04:51:23 PM » |
|
85 - interesting, I thought it would not be that high. Am doing well now, dd's past teen storminess and growing up, can be kind, sensitive and loving as adults (though still need validation/have deep vulnerabilities). Went through a very painful period for several years but at the moment (knock on wood) feel pretty happy. I do think my own sensitivity made it harder to cope and made me much more reactive than would have been good, at times!
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
todayistheday
|
|
« Reply #54 on: August 30, 2017, 11:16:08 PM » |
|
I got 96
|
|
|
Logged
|
* I use hBPD rather than uBPD. My Mom has not been evaluated for BPD, but I have a professional hypothesis from a therapist who I discussed the relationship with. She assigned me the eggshells book. At the next meeting when I told her how many things in the book were Mom, therapist was certain.
|
|
|
spacecadet
formerly Wisedup22
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Posts: 136
|
|
« Reply #55 on: September 04, 2017, 03:12:17 AM » |
|
My score is 45. When I was in my 20s it probably would have been 60++ but guess I've mellowed.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
AnuDay
Offline
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Relationship status: Almost Recovered
Posts: 240
|
|
« Reply #56 on: September 04, 2017, 08:53:07 AM » |
|
63. Still feeling some effects from BPD breakup in May. I would say that thankfully I've been on a positive upward trend since she moved out in July.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
Suninhersmile
Offline
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Child
Relationship status: Married, empty nester
Posts: 4
|
|
« Reply #57 on: January 12, 2018, 09:29:27 AM » |
|
I'm new to this site and hoping to get support. Just took this test and scored a 100 - does that mean I have an A for the class? (I am not belittling the fact that I am super sensitive, just trying to lighten my load a little!)
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
Skip
Site Director
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Posts: 7030
|
|
« Reply #58 on: January 12, 2018, 11:18:36 AM » |
|
It means you get to sit in the room with 54% of those that took the test and scored above 80%
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
Suninhersmile
Offline
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Child
Relationship status: Married, empty nester
Posts: 4
|
|
« Reply #59 on: January 13, 2018, 09:58:36 PM » |
|
I am replying to Skip (hopefully) - thank you for your support!
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
deirdre
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Parent
Posts: 72
|
|
« Reply #60 on: April 07, 2018, 01:58:34 AM » |
|
116,
I seem to be highly-sensitive, not very surprising considering. I have repeatedly desired to buy outrageously expensive headphones to block out all sound when I am trying to do my art or just anytime when i get overloaded. Living in a very loud household it makes it worse. Someday I will either live alone where it is quiet or buy overpriced headphones.
I also have a lot of problems with textures, some days I can wear a shirt with a seem down the side. Other days I can't handle a seem, or material etc... .As mentioned about I do art, I can't stand the feeling of most paper. It gives me the nails on a chalkboard feeling, speaking of chalk I can't even touch chalk or be in the same room where it is being used. So I guess it shouldn't surprise me to get such a high score, but I am only recently out of my denial stage of having sensory processing difficulties. Now to accept them and tackle the challenge of learning better coping methods! Currently I cope by having dogs and training/puppy raising service dogs, that process is actually what made me realize I did have some problems that need to be addressed not ignored.
|
|
|
Logged
|
-My mind is like a bad neighborhood, I try not to walk there alone-
|
|
|
Lady Itone
Offline
What is your sexual orientation: Gay, lesb
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Posts: 238
|
|
« Reply #61 on: April 07, 2018, 08:04:07 AM » |
|
I'm very much an "HSP" I've read Aron's books they helped me a lot.
The older I get, the easier it becomes figuring out how to deal with this. Sometimes it's as simple as don't go to loud concerts, get enough alone time, etc...
I'm still wayyyy too easily devastated by cruelty and injustice in the world, never quite figured out how to tolerate that one.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
Libra
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Parent
Posts: 264
|
|
« Reply #62 on: September 28, 2018, 05:33:21 AM » |
|
84.
Funny, for someone who easily judges herself as cold and callous. I think D9 is even higher. I suspect that does not simplify the dynamics between the 2 of us.
Libra.
|
|
|
Logged
|
Don't do unto others what you don't want others to do unto you. ~ Confucius.
|
|
|
Feeling Better
|
|
« Reply #63 on: September 29, 2018, 04:06:08 AM » |
|
52
I am not “in the mix” with my uBPD son anymore as he has chosen to be NC with me which brings with it it’s own form of anguish. It’s a different kind of struggle for me but still a struggle nonetheless.
FB
|
|
|
Logged
|
If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading ~ Lao Tzu
|
|
|
Harri
Retired Staff
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Parent
Posts: 5981
|
|
« Reply #64 on: September 29, 2018, 06:50:53 PM » |
|
So when I took this back in 3/2015, I scored 60 and attributed my relatively low score to a reduction in my PTSD symptoms.
Today I re-took it and scored 83. It makes sense though. My PTSD symptoms are still sort of okay (according to my T I show moderate impairment in social situations ). I think what makes me score higher is that I am not in a state of dissociation as much. When I say dissociation, I am talking about mild dissociation, with numbing or shutting down when emotions got too high. The shut down would happen so fast I never registered being upset or having emotions. I read it as being stoic, callous or heartless. Turns out, I am none of those things.
So yeah, as I become more aware of my own emotions and deal with anxiety better and therefore dissociate less, I score higher.
It's all good.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
Doggilama
Offline
What is your sexual orientation: Gay, lesb
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Parent
Posts: 8
|
|
« Reply #65 on: January 19, 2019, 08:06:49 PM » |
|
115 - Oh, well. Could be worse! Maybe we should all move to the same PTSD survivor's planet. I'm in a lot of transition in my life so I think my symptoms are worse. Recent break up & living in a new area where I've never lived before. In the NE & it's winter. I lived in Los Angelos for 18 yrs & thinking to take my animals & go back for a month or so.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
Bnonymous
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Posts: 485
|
|
« Reply #66 on: January 23, 2019, 01:55:35 PM » |
|
110.
Are we supposed to see a high score as a bad thing, a good one, or just neutral (neither bad nor good but just fact)? I guess I'm asking if this involves value judgements or merely description?
|
|
|
Logged
|
"You remind me of someone who is looking through a closed window and cannot explain to himself the strange movements of a passer-by. He doesn’t know what kind of a storm is raging outside and that this person is perhaps only with great effort keeping himself on his feet." - Ludwig Wittgenstein
|
|
|
Skip
Site Director
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Posts: 7030
|
|
« Reply #67 on: January 23, 2019, 02:57:30 PM » |
|
110.
Are we supposed to see a high score as a bad thing, a good one, or just neutral (neither bad nor good but just fact)? I guess I'm asking if this involves value judgements or merely description?
It's a self awareness test. Highly sensitive means more than most people and implies many things such as the need to be aware and self sooth and to be aware and understand that others might no be on the same page. https://hsperson.com/If I was highly sensitive to sugar is that a bad thing, a good one, or just neutral. It says I need to be aware and make adjustments, allowances, etc. otherwise it is likely to become a problem.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
Sandb2015
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
Relationship status: Living apart, kicked out on 12/19 after meeting 3/19/2015
Posts: 459
|
|
« Reply #68 on: January 23, 2019, 04:08:27 PM » |
|
I am a 73.
No surprise. Noise, stimulus, smells except for too much perfume have no effect as well as pain, physical pain, I'm almost immune.
The rest, I knew I'm sensitive actually, very aware. I've been most sensitive in my current relationship. It has been controllable mostly until I fell in love with her. Learning about this illness has shined the light on my own issues in a concentrated way.
|
|
|
Logged
|
Just because you think it, doesn't make it true.
|
|
|
HappyChappy
|
|
« Reply #69 on: March 14, 2019, 03:20:06 AM » |
|
I get 83 which I note is very close to other members I know have CPTSD on here. I'm calm in a crisis, its just the waiting for the crisis I can't take ! My BPD would probably score 666, she was the most sensitive. But she always accused my sister of that.
|
|
|
Logged
|
Some cause happiness wherever they go; others, whenever they go. Wilde.
|
|
|
once removed
BOARD ADMINISTRATOR
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Posts: 12695
|
|
« Reply #70 on: March 14, 2019, 08:19:39 AM » |
|
i gave myself a 93.
on a lot of things i rate pretty high. im not sensitive at all to things like lights, color, noise. some aspects of my environment im very sensitive to, some i dont even notice or otherwise dont affect me.
ridiculously picky eater. i generally feel emotions pretty strongly, and i can get really hung up on things that others wouldnt.
i need space and alone time, though i wouldnt say more than the average introvert.
never had any understanding for art, but very moved by music since i was old enough to remember. huge pet peeve is when people talk while its playing.
with everything else, it depends.
|
|
|
Logged
|
| | and I think it's gonna be all right; yeah; the worst is over now; the mornin' sun is shinin' like a red rubber ball… |
|
|
|
Enabler
|
|
« Reply #71 on: March 14, 2019, 10:03:18 AM » |
|
54
Some of the answers I scored highly on are due to my heightened emotional state, like a slamming door will abnormally startle me. My work involves chaos and stress, I think I'd melt if I was at all sensitive.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
itsmeSnap
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Posts: 458
"Tree of the young brave king"
|
|
« Reply #72 on: March 15, 2019, 03:08:53 AM » |
|
69This seems rigged I answered mostly 1's and 2's and a few higher and still got above average? If fewer questions are true of you, but extremely true, that might also justify calling you highly sensitive. Oh..
|
|
|
Logged
|
Not all those who wander are lost
|
|
|
HappyChappy
|
|
« Reply #73 on: March 18, 2019, 05:34:39 AM » |
|
Can’t help noticing that those with a parent with BPD mostly score high, but those with a partner or child vary from low to high. Except Turk but then he thinks he’s a wolf so... I bet Sherlock Holmes scored way high (and not just for opium).
|
|
|
Logged
|
Some cause happiness wherever they go; others, whenever they go. Wilde.
|
|
|
LumosNox22
Offline
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Parent
Posts: 17
|
|
« Reply #74 on: May 08, 2019, 11:38:21 AM » |
|
So I got 75. I didn't realize that being startled by things (which I jump a lot even when I know someone is home but I'm not "scared")...could have been a long term effect? I'm glad I'm going to start to talk to a therapist soon.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
acousticSR
Offline
What is your sexual orientation: Gay, lesb
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Parent
Posts: 4
|
|
« Reply #75 on: July 17, 2019, 12:24:42 AM » |
|
123
I've known that I'm highly sensitive, but I didn't realize it was that high. I find it really cool and comforting that so many of us who have experience loving people with BPD are highly sensitive. It makes me feel less alone in two really big ways.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
Scarlet Phoenix
Retired Staff
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Relationship status: Together 9 years
Posts: 1155
|
|
« Reply #76 on: July 18, 2019, 08:47:06 AM » |
|
106
As expected, really. I can spend hours alone without any auditive or visual stimuli. When I've been around people for a while, even if I really enjoyed my time with them, I need to be alone. I hate talking on the phone and will frequently screen calls.
Spent most of my time watching Game of Thrones with my hands in front of my eyes and the sound muted
I'm often moved by music and photography, poems and stories, but I'm not really into other kinds of art.
|
|
|
Logged
|
~~ The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena; who strives valiantly; who errs; who comes short again and again ... and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly ~~ Become who you are ~~
|
|
|
Longterm
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Relationship status: Divorce in progress
Posts: 580
|
|
« Reply #77 on: July 21, 2019, 04:24:44 PM » |
|
130
No real surprise. The girls at work told me im a really sensitive guy, but said that its a very good thing? I have always tried to hide it as I know that I am indeed very sensitive, it would appear that I dont do it very well. If im were to be honest, I would say that I find the world around me very scary. I enjoy being alone, it suits me. Ive never been the kind of guy to go on nights out etc, I would prefer to be indoors most of the time unless im fishing, cant really get out of that . Loud noises make me jump out my skin and if im around somebody whos mood changes I feel very, very uncomfortable. I will normally try to fix the issue or get away from it.
|
|
|
Logged
|
It is, was, and always will be, all about her.
|
|
|
todayistheday
|
|
« Reply #78 on: August 11, 2019, 05:06:08 PM » |
|
98
I do value alone time and I do not like to have a lot of confusion and disorganization. I abhor violence in movies and TV shows, I prefer G-rated and light-hearted things. I dislike horror movies.
|
|
|
Logged
|
* I use hBPD rather than uBPD. My Mom has not been evaluated for BPD, but I have a professional hypothesis from a therapist who I discussed the relationship with. She assigned me the eggshells book. At the next meeting when I told her how many things in the book were Mom, therapist was certain.
|
|
|
CounselorOChaos
Fewer than 3 Posts
Offline
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
Posts: 1
|
|
« Reply #79 on: October 19, 2019, 03:36:22 PM » |
|
118
I'm glad I'm not the only one who blew the charts on this assessment. Living with a man with BPD, which has self-corrected to a certain degree as we both age, but now highlights the other cluster personalities really hasn't helped me overcome my life-long highly sensitive state, nor has my PTSD. But, alas! We highly sensitive people are always the ones with the problem and are crazy.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
secretgirl
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
Posts: 193
|
|
« Reply #80 on: October 19, 2019, 05:44:23 PM » |
|
I got 115. Haha these questions are similar to a condition my therapist mentioned to me maybe having once called low latent inhibition. It is said if you’re an empath , like myself, and pay attention to a lot of detail etc you may have some sort of low latent inhibition or something similar to it . I find I get obsessed with certain things too and then can’t let them go until I know it perfectly maybe that’s why I attracted my bpd ... a combination of the empath plus challenge (not a good combo if you ask me haha ) they’re out of this world . Anything based purely off emotion does not make sense to me , being a logical person and all.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
LogicalNot
Fewer than 3 Posts
Offline
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
Relationship status: Married/Estranged
Posts: 1
|
|
« Reply #81 on: February 08, 2021, 11:11:52 PM » |
|
Score = 121
Wow! Not surprised, I learned about being an HSP this past year. Did not know the name for what was going on. Very interesting!
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
loldebyte
Offline
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Parent
Relationship status: Single
Posts: 4
|
|
« Reply #82 on: September 25, 2022, 10:39:41 AM » |
|
About 97.
I've been told by many friends that they were suspicious I was highly sensitive, so I expected a high score. I didn't expect that high a score but from what I'm reading it is no surprise.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
PowerChild
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
Relationship status: Dating
Posts: 15
|
|
« Reply #83 on: October 24, 2022, 12:40:20 PM » |
|
121
Yeah, I'm a Highly Sensitive Person.
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
|