PTSD?

[stillcantbelieveit]

just broke up with my BPD girlfriend for three months and believe have PTSD now.

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[enlighten me]

I wouldnt be suprised. I believe I also left the relationship with PTSD.

A lot of people here feel ashamed at admitting this because they assosciare it with military service and feel as if by getting it from a relationship they are weak or being drama queens. This is not the case. I was in the army. I served in many operational theatres. I have been shot at, mortared and rocketed more times than I care to count. It didnt toch me compared to the havoc my exgf played on my mental health.

One thing ive come to realise with PTSD is that it is due to how personally you take the incident. A friend had a near miss in a rocket attack and was convinced he was the sole target. With a BPD relationship it doesnt get more personal.

[gomez_addams]

just broke up with my BPD girlfriend for three months and believe have PTSD now.

Me, too.

I'll heal. I just need to get through the next few weeks one day at s time. If I can't do a whole day, I'll do one hour at a time.

Gomez

[Ceruleanblue]

I've felt I may have PTSD too, but sort of brushed it off because I too associated it with war, or something highly traumatic. Well, living with pwBPD, can be highly traumatic. BPDh's anger used to be so bad he'd sometimes get physical with me, and at one time I was suicidal for a while(I got myself in therapy, and I got better). I just couldn't believe that I so carefully chose him, only to find out after we married that he was a totally different person. I knew what abusive tendencies to look for, and I still got "duped". From then on, it was hang on, try different things, but mostly I was his target.

Things are much better now, but I still feel like I'm dealing with slight PTSD, because while he is a lot better, I'm living with the person who I know can be triggered, and go off at any time.

[formflier]

I encourage everyone in this thread to treat their symptoms.

Whether or not it develops into full blown PTSD that hangs around for years depends largely on how you process the trauma now.

There are incredibly effective strategies and treatments to put trauma in its proper perspective.

Any thought that after treatment the trauma will no longer affect your life... .is probably not a good goal.

FF