Hello Scolebentcher,
We are glad you are here telling us about your fears for your daughter and yourself.
I can see why you would be concerned about the extremes in her recent behaviors. The impulsiveness of her choices are troubling. It seems she is doing ok though... .
Sometimes we can't help our worrying, and we need to for our own sake. Past experiences, and the fear of the possibility of experiencing them again are scary. The best we can do is learn skills to cope, change the relationship dynamic, and have boundaries in place to protect ourselves.
A good place to begin to turn this around would be getting out of the FOG... .Fear, Obligation, and Guilt.
I hope reading this will help:
Emotional Blackmail: Get out of the FOGDoes anything in that information strike a chord with you? Let's talk about it, ok?
lbj