Well, it's been about 4 weeks (I think) of NC with my ex-BPD. Supposedly, her separated husband is coming back in town to discuss divorce and retrieve the rest of his belongings. My ex-BPD made it a big point to keep me in the loop on everything discussed between she and her separated husband. She said that it was important that I knew all communications to avoid any "you didn't tell me... ." on my part. But now I know better.
I didn't understand it until I realized what her strategy was - keep me agitated and in a state of 'unknown'.
One of the giant

was that she used me to take cheap shots at him. That told me a lot. It told me that things were not done between them.
At this point, who knows what the real story is but I can't help but think that they will reconcile. I used to get a giant lump in my stomach about it but not-so-much now. As far as I'm concerned, he can have the "crazy".
I just keep reviewing my list of "crazy" to keep me grounded.