youre absolutely right. im sure youre doing a whole lot ok elroyspace
im glad youve been reading. this is a very complex disorder. many of the lessons revolve around realistic expectations. im concerned about the prospect of uprooting your life and moving in order to prove your love to her. first of all, you should not have to prove your love. second, it may not go as expected. you may find yourself fairly isolated, too. it sounds like youre playing a lot of this out in your head while waiting for her, which is understandable, but i dont think its going to be that simple. if she is seeing someone as you suspect, theres no guarantee how that will play out. your good looks and salary may be no match for mental illness; in other words, you could be king of the world, and still be treated otherwise, and devastated. it is also not likely to go well if you become involved in getting her to a BPD specialist. generally shes got to know theres a problem, seek help on her own, and then commit to it, which is no easy accomplishment, and can take quite a while, with some huge ups and downs in the meantime.
i do understand how you feel about this person. i thought my ex was also the most beautiful girl id seen, and i too thought she was my soul mate. its understandable that no one seems to compare to her. its possible that dating right now will only reinforce that notion. you are certainly doing the right thing by focusing on, and improving yourself. do it for
you 
