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[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Tomorrow it begins.


    Firstly, thank you to the forum & to all the effort that went into the articles both around the community & outside it.

I'm going to make a promise to myself & this forum to become immune to this woman with BPD. I want to feel so good about myself it won't matter if she comes back or not.

You are still YOU! No matter what women come in and out of your life! Admittedly I was trying to deny and avoided reading the almost robotic responses I hear everyone getting of the BPD person being bad for you. Inside I was keeping this spark of wanting to start a journey of healing. Well now it's a flame!

I truly believe mindset can be changed by perfect diet and exercise. I say mindset & not

illness because as someone who suffer's from anxiety I know it's not always the case. And same goes for pwBPD!

My promise & commitment to this forum will be the following for the next 4 months:

1. Update & not abandon this thread even if my BPDex comes back to me. (At least once weekly) If she comes back i'll be better equipped to helping her at some point but I have to help myself first.

2. Only 3 times in total allowed to drink alcohol (realistic coming from abusing it)

3. Minimum 3 hours of being outside walking EVERY day. I am self-employed sitting on my laptop & have all the free time in the world so there is no excuse for this not to happen. They say less than 5000-10,000 steps a day is classified as sedentary. Bought a fitness tracking band to monitor myself & I might post an weekly chart. Sunscreen on deck. 

4. Will only eat the following:  (Organic everything) cereal, meats (mostly chicken), sweet potatoes/potatoes, Fruits & vegetables. And only drink water & almond milk! A lot of you guys have no idea how toxic fast food and processed food really is on your mindset. And what you drink... .Oh man if you drink powerade or Gatorade... .high fructose corn syrup is killing you. Also me being so big I need a gallon of water a day for my brain to function properly.

5. Lift weights minimum 3x week.

Got my new wireless headphones in & i'm ready for change! Going to lose about 30-40 pounds id say.

They say we have some inner demons to conquer because we got with/stuck with someone with BPD. I'm about to stare mine right in the face.

Healthy body healthy mind.

[ElroySpace]

Tomorrow it begins.


    Firstly, thank you to the forum & to all the effort that went into the articles both around the community & outside it.

I'm going to make a promise to myself & this forum to become immune to this woman with BPD. I want to feel so good about myself it won't matter if she comes back or not.

You are still YOU! No matter what women come in and out of your life! Admittedly I was trying to deny and avoided reading the almost robotic responses I hear everyone getting of the BPD person being bad for you. Inside I was keeping this spark of wanting to start a journey of healing. Well now it's a flame!

I truly believe mindset can be changed by perfect diet and exercise. I say mindset & not

illness because as someone who suffer's from anxiety I know it's not always the case. And same goes for pwBPD!

My promise & commitment to this forum will be the following for the next 4 months:

1. Update & not abandon this thread even if my BPDex comes back to me. (At least once weekly) If she comes back i'll be better equipped to helping her at some point but I have to help myself first.

2. Only 3 times in total allowed to drink alcohol (realistic coming from abusing it)

3. Minimum 3 hours of being outside walking EVERY day. I am self-employed sitting on my laptop & have all the free time in the world so there is no excuse for this not to happen. They say less than 5000-10,000 steps a day is classified as sedentary. Bought a fitness tracking band to monitor myself & I might post an weekly chart. Sunscreen on deck. 

4. Will only eat the following:  (Organic everything) cereal, meats (mostly chicken), sweet potatoes/potatoes, Fruits & vegetables. And only drink water & almond milk! A lot of you guys have no idea how toxic fast food and processed food really is on your mindset. And what you drink... .Oh man if you drink powerade or Gatorade... .high fructose corn syrup is killing you. Also me being so big I need a gallon of water a day for my brain to function properly.

5. Lift weights minimum 3x week.

Got my new wireless headphones in & i'm ready for change! Going to lose about 30-40 pounds id say.

They say we have some inner demons to conquer because we got with/stuck with someone with BPD. I'm about to stare mine right in the face.

Healthy body healthy mind.

[OopsIDidItAgain]

Congrats to you for starting this new journey to get healthy!

I work out every day, so if you want a workout buddy to keep you accountable, you're more than welcome to message me.

Keep up the good work and positive outlook.

[myself]

That's a great list, very positive, best of luck with it.

Don't be hard on yourself if you take a step back. Just keep going.

That said, being physical won't clear away all of the cobwebs/issues. So continue looking within, seeing who you really are and how you got where you are now. Doing so will aid you in moving forward even more.

[ElroySpace]

Thanks for the support guys, for some reason I woke up and wanted fast food but thought of this thread & it prevented me from getting that fix. I'm now cooking my meals for the coming week in advance right now. Just got back from 3 hours of being outside. Still immediately went to my BPDx's social media to see if anything is new upon getting inside ... .Have to stop obsessing. Probably going to lift tonight & watch some tv series... .Nights are very hard... .Going out just has been draining and feels like i'm avoiding the pain of thinking of her. Could possibly snag another perfect ten looks-wise with some hard effort right off the bat but that would be a band-aid on my life. Have to focus on myself until Thanksgiving.

[ElroySpace]

Adding no fapping to the list for the next 7 days only to start slow. It's said to do wonders for energy & anxiety. That may very well be the hardest part of the list. When you don't fap you don't produce more testosterone, your brain merely becomes more sensitive to it which results in benefits associated with testosterone. I'll report on how it effects my mindset.