Ex keeps (kept) adding me on facebook...

[Beware of Junk Psychology...]

So long story short. Been split up from ex who i suspect suffered from BPD. I was distraught when we first split up even though it was largely my choice. Been nearly 3 years and im alot better. Ive moved on from her. I think a part of me still loves her and ive accepted that I probably always will. Im ok with that and made peace in my heart.

Ive been no contact with her since we split, We share mutal friends so sometimes i hear about how she is doing through them or Facebook. She has had another child (had 1 from a different relationship when we were together)with the guy she left me for. ( he was an ex before me). Recently she popped up on Facebook saying she has got engaged to her current partner. I felt a bit down for 10 mins about the news but ive moved on so the news didnt phase me anymore then that.

Anyway she added me on facebook about a month before that. I accepted thinking nothing of it and about a day later she unfriended me. ( she wasnt blocked at the time, i think when i wasnt over her i left her unblocked so she could contact me and over the years of no contact and the fact i dont often go on FB, i forgot she was even on it)

So she got engaged as I said a few days ago and then a couple of days after that she tried adding me on facebook again. I've not blocked her which I should of done a while ago, but im worried about her intentions. I dont know why someone who has just got engaged is adding her ex on facebook all of a sudden.

Has anyone any experiance with this? Is this an attempt at contact? An attempt to make me see the engagement? An attempt to get a reaction out of her current partner?

Ive blocked her now but she probably still has my number and knows where I live so whilst I feel prepared for any contact im a little anxious over the whole thing. After years of no contact. Why now?

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So long story short. Been split up from ex who i suspect suffered from BPD. I was distraught when we first split up even though it was largely my choice. Been nearly 3 years and im alot better. Ive moved on from her. I think a part of me still loves her and ive accepted that I probably always will. Im ok with that and made peace in my heart.

Ive been no contact with her since we split, We share mutal friends so sometimes i hear about how she is doing through them or Facebook. She has had another child (had 1 from a different relationship when we were together)with the guy she left me for. ( he was an ex before me). Recently she popped up on Facebook saying she has got engaged to her current partner. I felt a bit down for 10 mins about the news but ive moved on so the news didnt phase me anymore then that.

Anyway she added me on facebook about a month before that. I accepted thinking nothing of it and about a day later she unfriended me. ( she wasnt blocked at the time, i think when i wasnt over her i left her unblocked so she could contact me and over the years of no contact and the fact i dont often go on FB, i forgot she was even on it)

So she got engaged as I said a few days ago and then a couple of days after that she tried adding me on facebook again. I've not blocked her which I should of done a while ago, but im worried about her intentions. I dont know why someone who has just got engaged is adding her ex on facebook all of a sudden.

Has anyone any experiance with this? Is this an attempt at contact? An attempt to make me see the engagement? An attempt to get a reaction out of her current partner?

Ive blocked her now but she probably still has my number and knows where I live so whilst I feel prepared for any contact im a little anxious over the whole thing. After years of no contact. Why now?