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How to communicate after a contentious divorce... Following a contentious divorce and custody battle, there are often high emotion and tensions between the parents. Research shows that constant and chronic conflict between the parents negatively impacts the children. The children sense their parents anxiety in their voice, their body language and their parents behavior. Here are some suggestions from Dean Stacer on how to avoid conflict.
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« on: November 13, 2015, 05:42:10 PM »

Basically double the pain... I really have no clue what's going on... .she's moved on visually which makes the PO look more warranted... .I have to meet with the police soon and head to court... .which further leaves me looking like an idiot. . Double the pain on me... Moved up living well , having sex BF girlfriend having fun... she was so hesitant to show me off , this guy gets a nice picture with a nice shout out. . " thanks for allowing me to be myself" ... and I didn't? ... I really don't know what else to say ... I just look like a massive idiot.

Im also an international so I'm worried about if it gets served perhaps im deported?  I dunno... .f this... worst experience ever
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« Reply #1 on: November 14, 2015, 02:38:09 PM »

im sorry youre hurting, problemsolver  .

its a lot of stress and pressure and pain. you sound exhausted and doubting yourself. are you able to make time for yourself and to try and unwind? try to be kind to yourself during this time. we are here for you to lean on Smiling (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #2 on: November 14, 2015, 04:57:39 PM »

im sorry youre hurting, problemsolver  .

its a lot of stress and pressure and pain. you sound exhausted and doubting yourself. are you able to make time for yourself and to try and unwind? try to be kind to yourself during this time. we are here for you to lean on Smiling (click to insert in post)

I believe I have to go on Thursday to the hearing... haven't been served yet but I believe it will happen once I go and get the police report Monday...

A little bit of self doubt in my heart I KNOW how confusing and stressful she is and that she does have BPD and she will become very negative in the long run , 4 - 5 months from now and that the same patterns will occur in this current R/S as it did in mine... .But seeing that immediate visual kind paints the picture as " Hey I am in a "R/S" with this man... why would I care about PS he's just jealous etc etc" you know it gives her move leverage I suppose. Perfect timing to post publicly as well.

You are right though I haven't given myself a mental break ... I've been constantly calling lawyers , getting free legal advice. As I can't fight this battle on my own ... it's not as casual as I originally thought.
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« Reply #3 on: November 15, 2015, 10:01:25 AM »

Hi problemsolver,

I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. I can relate with that high tension with having to go to court. I was charged and had to wait for several months, it was the scariest experience in my life. I couldn't believe that my ex wife wanted to have her husband in jail.

I've been constantly calling lawyers , getting free legal advice. As I can't fight this battle on my own ... it's not as casual as I originally thought.

What is the hearing for on Thursday? Is it a criminal or civil matter? Did the police charge you?

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« Reply #4 on: November 15, 2015, 05:44:19 PM »

Hi problemsolver,

I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. I can relate with that high tension with having to go to court. I was charged and had to wait for several months, it was the scariest experience in my life. I couldn't believe that my ex wife wanted to have her husband in jail.

I've been constantly calling lawyers , getting free legal advice. As I can't fight this battle on my own ... it's not as casual as I originally thought.

What is the hearing for on Thursday? Is it a criminal or civil matter? Did the police charge you?

I believe the hearing is for the PO... as far as I know I'm not getting charged?  I'm kind of in the dark again... .I was able to read the police report today... alot of lies but there is obviously truth to it...

I wanted to speak to the officer who interviewed me regarding the police report... but apparently I am no longer allowed to speak to him? So a little more confusion on my end...
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« Reply #5 on: November 15, 2015, 05:51:21 PM »

Hi problemsolver,

I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. I can relate with that high tension with having to go to court. I was charged and had to wait for several months, it was the scariest experience in my life. I couldn't believe that my ex wife wanted to have her husband in jail.

I've been constantly calling lawyers , getting free legal advice. As I can't fight this battle on my own ... it's not as casual as I originally thought.

What is the hearing for on Thursday? Is it a criminal or civil matter? Did the police charge you?

I believe the hearing is for the PO... as far as I know I'm not getting charged?  I'm kind of in the dark again... .I was able to read the police report today... alot of lies but there is obviously truth to it...

I wanted to speak to the officer who interviewed me regarding the police report... but apparently I am no longer allowed to speak to him? So a little more confusion on my end...

You got free advice from lawyers. Do you have a lawyer representing you Thursday?
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