I don't know what to do

[Kelli Cornett]

My ex which I believe to be a NPD/BPD/Sociopath dumped me tonight. We have been on and off hanging out everynight for 7 months now. He is out of town for the holidays and went on a crazy rant about how he has been seeing other girls and has a date lined up when he gets back and never wants to see me again. Also calling other 2 other women the loves of his lives and not me. He has attacked me, he has verbal abused me, he has sexual abused me, he has mentally abused me, likes prostitutes (tranny's) and is a raging alcoholic. I'm 25 and he is 28.


Funny because I am the only person in the world that knows any of this stuff about him. To the outside world he seems like a high function catch who just can't girl to love him. I've been the only girlfriend he has had in his adult life.


Sad for a year and half I actually tried to love this person. Who probably works for the devil.


We were officially together for 4 months. I cheated on him during that time and he swears he never did on me but I can't believe that. Than pretend like it hurt him yet I do not believe a person like this has any emotions.


I think I may need to move out of the town we both live in. I just have this feeling that if I stay he will try and ruin my life. (it's a small town) he already has in a lot of ways.


I don't know how I will ever trust another human being again. He always does this and than the next day pretends he didn't say that or keeps trying to talk to me.


I just don't want this in my life anymore. I don't want an STD and I don't want to end up dead.


BTW the night he attacked me at my apartment, he throw me hard on the ground and throw me against a wall chocking me till everyone in the complex heard my screams and tried to call the police. I was so scared and confused I ran off with a friend in a car and never looked back though people were worried and trying to call cops I ran from the scene.


I wish I would of reported him but at the time I guess I still stupidly wanted him in my life.



What do I do now?  

[letmeout]

You have dodged a bullet, let him move on and get your life back on track.

[Fr4nz]

The fact that you say he's high functioning excludes ASPD in my opinion. From the description (especially the huge rage fits, the alcoholism, the idealization... .) it is possible he has BPD traits.

Anyway, you said there was physical violence in the relationship, and this is very worrying! I suggest you to maintain no contact and ignore his future attempts to catch your attention.

It's clear that this relationship is never going to work (you even cheated on him)... .

[Kelli Cornett]

The fact that you say he's high functioning excludes ASPD in my opinion. From the description (especially the huge rage fits, the alcoholism, the idealization... .) it is possible he has BPD traits.

Anyway, you said there was physical violence in the relationship, and this is very worrying! I suggest you to maintain no contact and ignore his future attempts to catch your attention.

It's clear that this relationship is never going to work (you even cheated on him)... .

" I even cheated on him " Yea he did on me

[Kelli Cornett]

You have dodged a bullet, let him move on and get your life back on track.

How do i protect myself?

[Mutt]

Hi BlackAndBlue22,

I'm sorry to hear that. Don't be hard on yourself. How is your support network with family and friends? Are you talking to a T? The number I sent you will help with protection.

I think I may need to move out of the town we both live in. I just have this feeling that if I stay he will try and ruin my life. (it's a small town) he already has in a lot of ways.

Does he have a reputation in your small town? I completely understand feeling like you're not going to be able to trust another human being. I think it's confusing when someone says one thing and then say that have not, but not all people will treat you the same way that your ex has. I didn't want to trust people after the way that I was treated by my ex wife and when I started to apply boundaries, I noticed a change that the relationships became healthier and I started to make new friends that I could trust.