Growing up in a household with people with mental disorder

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This one is hard to comment for me but I feel obliged to point out that children born and raise in household with parents with disorder can grow up to be good and in perfect health.  I'm sure I'm no exception my mother was raised by a pretty abusive father and mother who was unable to protect her 7 kids.  Yet she turned out fine minus a few OCD and some minor narcissism that fortunately I've handle.  Living with my fiance who is BPD for 5 years and with a daughter on the way I often see the more positive effects than the negative.  Although our 5 yrs had had its up and down I always see him improving and the fact that he's expecting the child makes him so excited.  I guess he also has fear of damaging the child health.  But children and adult do get damaged in other ways than in being raised.  Although he's father seem to have a extremely mild version of the disorder itself my fiance always point out the worst was the abuse he suffered in school (by a teacher who is now a gang leader in a criminal org. and students (possibly even sexual abuse)).  Although the parents should have given crap to the school officials who took side with the teacher and students He himself said he'd keep his parents but the school's given him crap.  Also so people are making sure their kids stay safe by getting them away from BPD parents but their preschool, schools experience outside the home that may affect the kids more than the actual BPD parent. Having been raised myself with a OCD mother's who been abused and a Aspie brother and having been bullied at school I learned quite early to see the bigger picture and I believe it has made me more compassionate and helping than others.  As long as one teaches the kids to be open-mided and caring children raised in those conditions often end-up being more understanding than others I find. As my mother said people without any problem/challenge in life are the one's who are the most selfish because they believe that everything is due to them and the more sheltered they are from "life" the worst it is.  Because life itself is not perfect and those kids will meet others with challenges either bigger or the same as their BPD parent. What is gonna happen then? What is the preparation for life encounters then?

Just saying !

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