It's natural to want to reach out during the holidays. But when we reach out to people that have emotional issues it can be disheartening if we are looking for something they are not able to provide.
My GF broke up with me suddenly without warning four days before Christmas. I went ahead and sent her and her sons presents over to her that were already purchased. She unblocked her phone long enough on Christmas Eve to say thanks for the presents, have a good life.
This morning I sent her a Facebook message that simply said Merry Christmas. It sent her off the handle, calling me a psycho and threatening to call the police if I ever contacted her again, and that she already said thanks for the presents so now f--- off.
So no, my contact did not go better.
This is a difficult time for many. And a lot of pwBPD are prone to having more problematic episodes. Don't take it personally, and don't give up on finding that someone that will be there for you.
I'm so sorry to hear that. The emotional rejection is so painful. to you.
I would of done the same thing. I actually had someone the other day tell me " you can't always be nice people will walk all over you"
The funny thing is, I don't even see my actions as nice. I'm a person who lives by #deathbedthoughts
Life is so short. In this small or long time we have would you want your heart to be filled with love or hate?
Most of the time I chose love and compassion. It seems like an obvious choice to me. But I always find it isn't popular. Selfishness and "winning" is popular.
I don't know. I guess I've always looked at bigger picture of things. Look on a scale of earth and the universe we are so small in comparison. And we should be rapped up in ourselves? Never made sense to me. You sound like may think the same way. Time is precious.
I hope it gets better for you seeker <3