Re: BPD / Personality Disorder ~

[stewlion07]

Hi,

I need help ASAP, I have been with my BPD GF for almost 3 years, She is very co dependent on me.

Only 2 weeks ago she was calling me 10 x a day, Texting me 20 and I got upset and pushed her away.

she works for me, this is our 5th break up. I don't want to lose her. I know she loves me, but i have been begging for another chance and anything I ask from her, she does the opposite.

How do I take back control of the situation , I am ready to give her 110%, i want to propose to her.

her family hate me and I also had a blow up with her father last week on the phone.

in every bodies experience, how do you draw them closer and back in the quickest? I don't want anymore games, I just want her and i know how to handle her now.

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[C.Stein]

Hello  .

I know it all can be very confusing and frustrating.  If you can share why you feel she is suffering from BPD and some more detail on the relationship (if you are comfortable doing so) it would help.  Have you availed yourself to the the resources on this site yet?

If I may ask, why do you feel the need to control the situation?  What do you mean when you say you know how to handle her now?

[livednlearned]

Hi stewlion07,

Glad you found the site. It sounds like things are pretty rocky right now. What kinds of things have you learned to handle her now? Can you elaborate for us?

Looking forward to learning more about what's going on for you.

LnL

[waverider]

Do you think you may have codependent rescuer traits?

Codependency and Codependent Relationships