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« on: April 14, 2016, 07:49:31 AM »

Hello everyone

I've gotten better after breaking contact last weekend. Discovered just what my exBPDgf is capable of and she's textbook BPD.

Not sure what else she's dealing with but that's no longer my concern.

I spoke to our police dept about the rape eligation and her suicide gestures on fb, they are well aware of her behaviours.

My son is still with her and her bf, I spoke to people who know her bf, he's an alcoholic, codependent and long history of criminal activity among other mental health issues.

So I don't feel bad for either one of them as they can drive each other mad. I am however very concerned about the safety of my son.

They are trying to manipulate me into following their plans and if I choose not to comply they will give my son to another family.

Just shows the depths of their depavity and illness, as someone here so amply put it, we don't understand them because we are not thinking inside those pointy heads. Thank God we are not them. Lol

My secret formula? My advice?

With my ex = I get sick

Stay away from ex = I get well

Works every time Smiling (click to insert in post)

I wish you all well on this painful walk and have a wonderful day!  
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« Reply #1 on: April 14, 2016, 12:43:15 PM »

As long as you are getting well that is all that matters.   Smiling (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #2 on: April 14, 2016, 12:48:28 PM »

JerryRG, how can she give your child to another family? Do you have a custody agreement? A lawyer? This is terrifying!
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« Reply #3 on: April 14, 2016, 01:30:30 PM »

Hello Steelwork

She cannot legally give him away, her bf may be behind this as he was the one who told me. He says my ex is better than ever and he's going to marry her. I said why give him away, give full custody to me? Then they want me to sign my rights away?

I think both of them are not playing with a full deck

Anyway my son is being pulled back and forth because of it.

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« Reply #4 on: April 14, 2016, 01:37:51 PM »

Jerry,  how old is your son?
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« Reply #5 on: April 14, 2016, 02:11:28 PM »

JerryRG can I add, step 1?

It will never work, recycle - fail, recycle - fail

With my ex = I get sick

Stay away from ex = I get well

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« Reply #6 on: April 14, 2016, 02:34:52 PM »

Hello Survivingher

My son turns 2 April 18
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« Reply #7 on: April 14, 2016, 03:15:18 PM »

Agreed Thegardiner

Lost count on recycles

I so need to keep things simple

Thanks again
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« Reply #8 on: April 14, 2016, 03:18:52 PM »

I said why give him away, give full custody to me? Then they want me to sign my rights away?

JerryRG,

Do you have a custody order? Have you talked to a lawyer? I recall that I tried to negotiate with my ex wife for custody and it was impossible because she kept changing stipulations. I went into family court, then served her and settled it in court.
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« Reply #9 on: April 14, 2016, 03:23:33 PM »

Thanks Mutt

I don't have a lawyer and I'm seeking legal aid now.

I live in South Dakota, here are the guidelines

2.5 Toddlers – Twelve to Thirty-six Months. Alternative Parenting Plans: (1) Three

custodial periods per week of up to eight hours each on a predictable schedule; or (2)

Three custodial periods per week of up to eight hours each on a predictable schedule

in addition to one overnight per week; or (3) Child spends time in alternate homes,

but with significantly more time in one parent’s home with one or two overnights

spaced regularly throughout the week. Arrangement (3) requires an adaptable

child and cooperative parents.

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« Reply #10 on: April 14, 2016, 03:37:12 PM »

JerryRG,

I'm sorry to hear that your family is going through this. We're not lawyers. The members on the legal board can offer advice and strategies that will help you in court, when you're facing an ex that suffers from mental illness. Your son needs a voice.

Family law, divorce and custody https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?board=10.0
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« Reply #11 on: April 14, 2016, 03:48:15 PM »

Thank you Mutt

I will try that forum
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