HEY LIFECHANGING:
Welcome to BPD Family!
I'm so sorry about the situation with your daughter. It is unfortunate that you have had to get a lawyer involved. That can get very costly. Sounds like you did the safest and best thing to have her leave right now, in light of the her recent behavior. Has she ever split you black before this episode?
Are you and your daughter's dad able to work together on some of your daughter's BPD issues?
Are any of you getting any therapy right now? Sounds like you are under a lot of stress.
There is a lot of good information on this Website that you should find helpful. There are some links on the right hand side of the page. You can, also, go to "The Learning Center" area on the board (find the main index page or use the navigation drop-down at the bottom of this page).
The links below can be helpful (whether it is new info. or a refresher):
Here is a link to info. about Fear, Obligation and Guilt (FOG):https://bpdfamily.com/content/emotional-blackmail-fear-obligation-and-guilt-fogThis link is to a Discussion Thread - What it means to be in the "FOG" Note: There are multiple pages for this one, might want to find the page numbering area at the top and click "all"
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=82926.0Here is a link to a thread about boundaries:https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=61684.0This link leads to discussion thread on boundaries (there are approx. 7 pages of discussion)https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=61684.0