distraction excercise

[badknees1]

i'd  like to run this past you all. Last night as I went to bed at near 1 am... .BPD wife got angry I was not engaging with her. She told me just go to bed then raged. This morning same rage. I used JADE she took  2 sleep meds and is now asleep... its 11 am now. I am going to try to engage her soon by going somewhere and doing something so her day, like so many, are not just sleeping all day, wasted... .its risky because if if we go it will be open verbal attack season on me with the kitchen sink thrown in. Is this a good idea to distract her from staying all day in the bedroom and raging again tonight that I ignored her. Of course, when I "ignore" her I am washing clothes cooking cleaning running errand and doing a huge back yard project she has complained about for years. Do I try to pull this off or let her sleep all day and delay the attacks until tonight when I need to go to work Monday? I could d complete the rear yard today. I am trying to keep the home enviornment peaceful and unchaotic for today and trying not to add gas to the fire... .I am a deer in the headlights here... .any good ideas.

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[Naughty Nibbler]

If she sleeps too late into the day, the cycle of keeping you up will likely continue.  If you have another bedroom in the house, perhaps you could focus on BOUNDARIES  A possible boundary could be that you go sleep somewhere else in the home, when she refuses to respect your need for sleep.

Is you wife receiving any therapy?