Hey, everyone. As some of you may have read my story, I wanted to send along an update. I took a break from coming on the boards because it was too much of a reminder and it led me to overthinking and trying to solve an unsolvable equation. Over the course of the past few weeks, my healing has taken a tremendous step up. The wounds have gone from oozing, to scabbing, to finally scarring (sorry for the gross imagery). I've taken big steps over the past few months through therapy, self-care and reflection. It might be trite to hear if you're going through something now, but I can tell you all that are struggling most assuredly that this too shall pass. Life always keeps moving and we don't have a lot of time here. I know that's a platitude — but it's all true nonetheless. Give yourself time and peace; recognize the magnitude of the world we live in. The one you are leaving is not the one, but that is no reason to give up living a happy life for yourself. Love will find its way.
Sure, my ex comes across my mind many days, but she doesn't control my thoughts or life anymore. Only I (and you) can lead the charge of my own/your own life. That is the most powerful fact that will get you through this. I know this is also trite and I think from a book or a movie, but people will always try to tell you you can't do something because they can't do it themselves. You are just as capable, if not more, than anyone else.
I also strongly recommend watching this video:
https://youtu.be/T3JzcCviNDkI will check in from time to time. I wish you all the very best. Stay strong!
