friday night it kicked off

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

hi friday night it all kicked off!

had to call the EX after she demanded i contact my brief to check he had received an email about a letter from the court

informed her she was supposed to respond to the court

all sort of excuses. and attacks and i wasnt in the mood

so i gave her some home truths that she denied and i stuck to my guns

and i was hit by accusations of adultery of years past

this woman i actually worshiped and gave everything to actually believed that i would cheat on her and believed i had and remembered the people she thought i had cheated with

if someone had got too close i had always been honest and told my wife but i had always put a boundary in place and would never have cheated on her

the accusations pissed me of as they were her projections of her infidelity and justification for her infidelity. which to this day she still denies

i was firm and i was not willing to be put down and i gave as good as i got

unfortunately she was on the phone to my daughter playing the victim

arghhhhh   

[married21years]

hi friday night it all kicked off!

had to call the EX after she demanded i contact my brief to check he had received an email about a letter from the court

informed her she was supposed to respond to the court

all sort of excuses. and attacks and i wasnt in the mood

so i gave her some home truths that she denied and i stuck to my guns

and i was hit by accusations of adultery of years past

this woman i actually worshiped and gave everything to actually believed that i would cheat on her and believed i had and remembered the people she thought i had cheated with

if someone had got too close i had always been honest and told my wife but i had always put a boundary in place and would never have cheated on her

the accusations pissed me of as they were her projections of her infidelity and justification for her infidelity. which to this day she still denies

i was firm and i was not willing to be put down and i gave as good as i got

unfortunately she was on the phone to my daughter playing the victim

arghhhhh   

[JerryRG]

Wow, hang in there married21years

I hope things settle down for you.

I was accused of sleeping with half our town and having not one but two other children while our son was only one year old. My ex thought her sisters baby was mine, I used to get terribly upset about this until I realized as much as I could the troubled mind that could conceive of these wild accusations. They are sick, mine is disordered internally, externally and eternally .

That would have been our marriage vows... .

[married21years]

thx bud

i am sticking to my guns

nc and the divorce is going through

she is going to be out of my life once and for all!

[Tobiasfunke]

It's so hard to just stay no contact when you are being attacked or smeared. Emails and text is the best way to avoid being baited into their chaos. I miss my ex very much some days but I do knot miss the fighting and projecting. Remember they are ill. Don't waste time and energy or let her ruin your weekend. She's your past now let her stay there. It's hard to detach when our BPD ex's can still bring out so strong emotions and responses when they act up. You will get past this.

[Larmoyant]

Hi Married,

Sounds like we both had an eventful Friday night! Mine kicked off too, including accusations of wanting to be with half the men in my town. He said that our relationship started going downhill because of my carrying on with one of his friends. I’m so sick of these kind of accusations and it seriously makes me want to scream. Especially when you know that it’s them that actually flirt and cheat!

I’m glad you weren’t willing to be put down, neither was I.

[married21years]

i was accused for wanting the divorce so i can get married

after we split i found someone else and she tried to recycle

this destroyed me being in love with two women.

although i never saw my ex while i was with the new woman, the feelings crept back and she played on my need to care for her

the destroyed my relationship with my new partner.

and my ex had me back but there were boundaries and one of which she had to come clean and get help

this was too much for my ex and she secretly replaced me then discarded me!

she stalled on accepting or agreeing the terms for the divorce for six months

now i am pushing it through it is because i want to get married again.

i will not stand for lies or abuse

and the smearing must stop with he lies!

i have a strained relationship with my daughter because of this all