One of my exes best friends I've never met found me on Facebook and messaged me.

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Okay, I was going to post about this a while back but I didn't.
If you ever read my posts before, my ex and I are in no contact. About two months ago, her GIRLFRIEND found me on Facebook and messaged me, saying she had questions to ask me. I asked her what, and she never responded.

Flash forward a few weeks later, and my ex (who didn't know where I lived), her girlfriend, and a few others coincidentally ended up in the pool by my apartment complex. My ex and i gave an awkward hi, and when I got up to my apartment, her girl friend began texting me from my exes phone! My ex didn't even know her girl friend was doing this. She actually told me to "come hangout" with them to which i responded no, that would be weird. I asked her why they were at that complex, and they said there friend lived there and they were visiting him. Well, she brought up the questions thing again. I kept saying just ask what you want, and she said only in person would she. I asked why and she said she doesn't talk about this sort of thing in text, that she wants to know how i felt, and that she kept having to erase these texts she was sending me so my ex wouldn't see. Well, I thought about it and i assumed it was something bad about my ex and she only wanted to ask in person, so i couldn't screen shot it and send her. Well, the convo ended there after i refused to talk about her "questions" in person. She hasn't found me on facebook to reach out to me since.

Well, a couple weeks ago, i open facebook messenger to see i have a message request (which it does if you arent friends with someone on there). It was sent at 3 in the morning! The person sending it is one of my exes/exes girlfriends, best friends. He is the one that "supposodley" lives at my complex. All the message said was hey. That was it. I responded at around 12 that afternoon, and he read it and never replied. I checked his profile and we have zero mutual friends, meaning he knew my name, who i was, and how to find me on facebook. Surely my ex told him im into girls, so he wouldn't be hitting on me.
That was a few weeks ago and he hasn't messaged again.

My ex has recently moved in with her girl friend and maybe other people. Well, a co worker said my ex recently posted something about hanging out with her neighbors and buddies, in her new city. One of the people tagged was the guy that messaged me. So he is either a neighbor, and has moved by them or is living with them. Or he never lived at my complex. Either way, by the status, it seems like he messaged me, the week they all moved in together or moved by each other.

Why would the girl friend ever message me?
Why would this guy message me at 3 in the morning, just saying hey, then not ever reply?
Shes happy with the gf so ... it isn't a recycle and im not even sure my ex has any knowledge that either the gf or the friend have messaged me.

[Indifferent28]

Okay, I was going to post about this a while back but I didn't.
If you ever read my posts before, my ex and I are in no contact. About two months ago, her GIRLFRIEND found me on Facebook and messaged me, saying she had questions to ask me. I asked her what, and she never responded.

Flash forward a few weeks later, and my ex (who didn't know where I lived), her girlfriend, and a few others coincidentally ended up in the pool by my apartment complex. My ex and i gave an awkward hi, and when I got up to my apartment, her girl friend began texting me from my exes phone! My ex didn't even know her girl friend was doing this. She actually told me to "come hangout" with them to which i responded no, that would be weird. I asked her why they were at that complex, and they said there friend lived there and they were visiting him. Well, she brought up the questions thing again. I kept saying just ask what you want, and she said only in person would she. I asked why and she said she doesn't talk about this sort of thing in text, that she wants to know how i felt, and that she kept having to erase these texts she was sending me so my ex wouldn't see. Well, I thought about it and i assumed it was something bad about my ex and she only wanted to ask in person, so i couldn't screen shot it and send her. Well, the convo ended there after i refused to talk about her "questions" in person. She hasn't found me on facebook to reach out to me since.

Well, a couple weeks ago, i open facebook messenger to see i have a message request (which it does if you arent friends with someone on there). It was sent at 3 in the morning! The person sending it is one of my exes/exes girlfriends, best friends. He is the one that "supposodley" lives at my complex. All the message said was hey. That was it. I responded at around 12 that afternoon, and he read it and never replied. I checked his profile and we have zero mutual friends, meaning he knew my name, who i was, and how to find me on facebook. Surely my ex told him im into girls, so he wouldn't be hitting on me.
That was a few weeks ago and he hasn't messaged again.

My ex has recently moved in with her girl friend and maybe other people. Well, a co worker said my ex recently posted something about hanging out with her neighbors and buddies, in her new city. One of the people tagged was the guy that messaged me. So he is either a neighbor, and has moved by them or is living with them. Or he never lived at my complex. Either way, by the status, it seems like he messaged me, the week they all moved in together or moved by each other.

Why would the girl friend ever message me?
Why would this guy message me at 3 in the morning, just saying hey, then not ever reply?
Shes happy with the gf so ... it isn't a recycle and im not even sure my ex has any knowledge that either the gf or the friend have messaged me.

[Panda39]

I'm suspicious... .

Either the friends are on a fishing expedition for the your ex or it is your ex.  I would not respond to any of these contacts if you want to continue NC.

[Indifferent28]

Well, the thing about this is, my ex KNOWS the kind of person i am.
She knows I would not "hangout" with them because i am not the type to hangout with an ex (or one i still have feelings for) and be all fine and dandy seeing her with her partner and friends.
So because of that, I know she has expressed this to them.

And I am positive it isnt her messaging me on either count, simply because the girl friend was very adamant about changing her mind on asking me anything online or in text, knowing i could show my ex.
And I thought maybe the friend had something worthwhile to say, but nope, just hey to which he never said anything else to.

Why message me at 3 in the morning also?
Makes me think it was a drunk text or message, but he'd have to know who i was and how to find me on facebook.
That would explain him not replying to me when he sobered up that afternoon.
But still... .WHY even be drunk texting me

[GaGrl]

I think it is your ex doing the texting.  Ignore.

[Indifferent28]

It definitely isn't her.
She would just text me herself if she wanted to talk. I haven't ignored her or anything previously. She has just had zero desire to talk to me, since she's happy with the girl friend. We never ended in an argument, just basically her going off and being happy with her gf and me backing away from the situation.

She isn't the stalkerish or dangerous type I hear about on some of these boards.

Is there any reason why her friends would be reaching out to me, but not actually saying anything?
Thats the part i don't get. What is the use in a simple hey, if you don't even reply

[Indifferent28]

By the way guys, i hope i am not sounding rude by saying i know it isn't her.
Its just i know she'd text me herself if she wanted to talk to me.

So that just leaves me with why in the world would they even attempt to find me on Facebook if they know we won't hangout/be friends.

I try to just brush it off, but the timing of it is all just weird, and the fact that they messaged at all is weird.
also, what do you guys think her girlfriend meant by "I want to know how you felt"