Emotional abuse poll

[Depression = 72% of members]

This happened when my BPDex broke up with me on one of our recycles as well-- it didn't seem like there was any real change except that she (largely unbeknownst to me) felt free to meet other people. That was horrible to have to live through for me.

Sadly, how did things finally transition out of that together-but-not-together phase for you?

[kc sunshine]

This happened when my BPDex broke up with me on one of our recycles as well-- it didn't seem like there was any real change except that she (largely unbeknownst to me) felt free to meet other people. That was horrible to have to live through for me.

Sadly, how did things finally transition out of that together-but-not-together phase for you?

[Sadly]

KC, I honestly don't know. Eventually it seemed that I believed we were together sort of and his together but not together statement released him from a pressure he couldn't deal with, not to be free to see others but it made him mentally more comfortable. Tbf apart from one incident a long time ago, not full on unfaithful but something happened there was no chance of it because we were literally together 7 days/nights a week. We split our time between his house or mine, did lots of lovely things at weekends. But like I said, I would hug him or give him a kiss in passing, show affection in many ways and he wouldn't. Talk about confused and unhappy. Sometimes in bed he would say " I wouldn't mind a hug/cuddle, other times he would just put his arm round me, it was very sad for me. Have I waffled on a bit, I think I may have, sorry.   x

[sweet tooth]

I think Silent Treatment and Disappearing Acts need to be included in this poll.  I didn't see them so I selected "other."

[Mavrik]

One thing that I can't see on here is racism or racist abuse

I'm a British Asian and my ex BPD gf was white British and she would make hurtful racist comments to me then say I was being over sensitive