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Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse... Have you considered that being critical, judgmental, or invalidating toward the other parent, no matter what she or he just did will only make matters worse? Someone has to be do something. This means finding the motivation to stop making things worse, learning how to interrupt your own negative responses, body language, facial expressions, voice tone, and learning how to inhibit your urges to do things that you later realize are contributing to the tensions.
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« on: September 05, 2016, 01:24:58 PM »

My 22 year old daughter lives with me. I'm 51. Her mom and 3 younger siblings live two streets away. My daughter brought a book to her room that I found on her nightstand. It's called surviving a borderline parent. I couldn't put it down for an hour. She highlighted tons of sentences and paragraphs. I fit some of the description but most fits her mom. For three days I feel that the pain is closer while I feel relieved that my daughter is the one to have found a description and possible tool box for dealing with this. I am glad it wasn't me that found it. And I am glad we have something now. I want to read every book on the subject this week. I probably need tons of help and would like to find a shrink who knows about this stuff where I live in Detroit.
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« Reply #1 on: September 05, 2016, 07:29:26 PM »


Welcome mccarus:    

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My daughter brought a book to her room that I found on her nightstand. It's called surviving a borderline parent. I fit some of the description but most fits her mom.  . . .I want to read every book on the subject this week. I probably need tons of help and would like to find a shrink who knows about this stuff where I live in Detroit.

Many of us have a few BPD traits.  It is only when you have 5 of the 7 that the label of BPD is generally given.  This article might help: IS IT BPD?

How old are the children that are living with their mom?  Are you seeking a therapist for you?

Do you plan to have a conversation with your daughter about the book?
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