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Ex BPD gf lesbian replacment contacted me .
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If you have read my previous posts you will be up to date on the situation .
Today I got a FB message from what at the time was my replacement . She asked if there were no hard feelings between us and if she could ask me some quistions about my exes behaviour while they were together . I agreed because the poor girl was in bits . My ex devalued and discarded her a few weeks back and I think I helped her understand a little more .
For those of you on here that think your replacment is going to get treated better than you think again .
All the same behaviour from my ex was the same way she treated this poor girl who now realises she was a victim . My ex told her so many lies about me and that I was abusive to her and that I told my ex that I wish she had died giving birth to our son ! She told her that she had to have heart surgery again not true .
She then went on to say if she didn't agree to what she said she got raged at it made to feel guilty about it . When she left for work she got made to feel as though she couldn't leave her and was told she didn't care about her . The list is endless .
The bit that got me most was she said my ex asked her to move in within a week and asked her to marry her within 4 weeks . Bear in mind though folks my ex was straight and then turned gay over night ! And started seeking new supply from women .
I've since found out that the girl she is with now was my replacments best freind that she replaced her for ! My ex is unreal and just shows how low they will go with such desperation !
My ex also used her credit card details to buy things once she discarded her and refuses to give her some personal belongings back so she got the police involved and my ex is now facing charges of fraud and theft . My ex has also been barred from the gay club were this girl works as my ex kept going there with her replacement to rub her nose in it .
She's definitely got worse after us splitting up and it's now the girl that she's with now I feel for as she's only 23 and kind hearted my ex is 32 so she'll distroy this one with ease .
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Re: Ex BPD gf lesbian replacment contacted me .
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September 09, 2016, 08:48:33 PM »
That's terrible.
They have absolutely no boundaries.
I too feel sorry for my replacement though she did help break us up in a way. I used to think "she has no idea what she's in for!" He even knows the relationship won't last.
Knowingly or unknowingly they use people. Filling a void that will never be satisfied till they get help.
Your child, living with you ?
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Re: Ex BPD gf lesbian replacment contacted me .
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September 09, 2016, 10:08:08 PM »
This sounds so much like my situation.
Thank you for sharing.
My ex left me for a woman I thought was my friend. What amazes me is the total lack of boundaries. It actually made me re-evaluate all the relationships around me.
I needed to hear this story tonight. I really did. I'm sorry you went through all this... .I am glad you can empathize with your replacement. I hope to get there... .eventually.
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The other thing my ex did was try to recycle me inbetween that's the twisted part ! She told me that she thought she was gay then realised that it was me she wanted I kept my distance as we have recycled so many times now and I'm immune to her games and her impulsive behaviour . Then when I said no she got with her best freind just to add insult to misery . It's almost like the NPD parts of her BPD were in full swing and part of me thinks she got with her best freind to spite her . The good news is she has had enough sense to block my ex and have NC and bear In mind I turned my ex down at the same time so if the reasons my ex done what she did are true then I really can't see this relaitionship lasting long as she will get board now the chase and motives are over . We have both removed ourselves from the triangle and are indifferent towards her . My son doesn't live with me but I have him 3 days out of the week . I saw my ex today with the replacement to the replacement in the car I even waved and said hi to her new partner wished her a good weekend and she walked off without saying a word . She didn't look overly happy .
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I forgot to add that my ex and her now ex best freind were openly abusing this girl on FB for the public to see it was actual cruel bullying ! Both of them saying things that were untrue and pure vile ! Proberly explains why my ex chose to get together with her best freind if she's validating her actions and enabling her behaviour .
The way I see it we have a BPD female that's idolised a very immature 23 year old that both have NPD traits ! This so isn't going to end well and my ex will prob abuse her new object for it when it does go wrong I'm staying well out of it . And if the newest replacement wants answers and FB messages me I will tell her were to go and tell her she deserved it she's just as bad as my ex tbh .
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Hi Splitblack4good,
That's some development there. It sounds like your ex's pattern of unstable relationships has escalated. Sad situation for all involved, in my opinion.
How do you feel about this news, Splitblack? If I remember correctly, your son is still a baby so he doesn't know what's going on, right?
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Hi heartandwhole
Yes my ex really is in a strange place right now . When it comes to doining hand overs with our son she refuse to look at me and always is really angry .
I have my son every weds night weds just passed she rang up my mum and said I can't have him as I was going out drinking with my mates and that I'm a lier ! I dont even drink and if I did I wouldn't go out on the evenings I have my son .
Just of nowere with no reason or justification ! To this day she still won't tell me why she done that . Everytime I've seen here I've been polite and wished her a good weekend and she seems to get even more angry with me the more time goes on . Just the other day she sent me a random text saying " you ruined it again you just can't help yourself can you ! " I think that's her projection and she knows deep down this is all her doin. I don't know what to do other than just keep my distance leave her alone as she's ask me to do .
The stunt she pulled on weds still has me confused ? Was she looking for some kind of reaction ?
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Quote from: Splitblack4good on September 09, 2016, 05:39:37 PM
If you have read my previous posts you will be up to date on the situation .
Today I got a FB message from what at the time was my replacement . She asked if there were no hard feelings between us and if she could ask me some quistions about my exes behaviour while they were together . I agreed because the poor girl was in bits . My ex devalued and discarded her a few weeks back and I think I helped her understand a little more .
For those of you on here that think your replacment is going to get treated better than you think again .
All the same behaviour from my ex was the same way she treated this poor girl who now realises she was a victim . My ex told her so many lies about me and that I was abusive to her and that I told my ex that I wish she had died giving birth to our son ! She told her that she had to have heart surgery again not true .
She then went on to say if she didn't agree to what she said she got raged at it made to feel guilty about it . When she left for work she got made to feel as though she couldn't leave her and was told she didn't care about her . The list is endless .
The bit that got me most was she said my ex asked her to move in within a week and asked her to marry her within 4 weeks . Bear in mind though folks my ex was straight and then turned gay over night ! And started seeking new supply from women .
I've since found out that the girl she is with now was my replacments best freind that she replaced her for ! My ex is unreal and just shows how low they will go with such desperation !
My ex also used her credit card details to buy things once she discarded her and refuses to give her some personal belongings back so she got the police involved and my ex is now facing charges of fraud and theft . My ex has also been barred from the gay club were this girl works as my ex kept going there with her replacement to rub her nose in it .
She's definitely got worse after us splitting up and it's now the girl that she's with now I feel for as she's only 23 and kind hearted my ex is 32 so she'll distroy this one with ease .
She seems more a psychopath, than a BPD... .
Was she diagnosed BPD?
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Yes diagnoses was BPD .
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You are very kind to be so supportive of her.
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September 20, 2016, 08:26:16 AM »
I think overall you need this out of your life and helping someone they have affected on Facebook is then affecting you again, it's not healthy for you to help some random person. It could also affect you further and cause problems over custody (unfair of course). Perhaps best to avoid further problems this could bring.
Whatever wrongs and lies she is saying you cannot put them right, it is surely better to avoid it altogether as it seems like all you have to gain from helping Facebook randoms is further grief for yourself.
It also must be very difficult with a child involved. Especially if she isn't getting help. If you have to talk to her when seeing your child try use a lot of validation.
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It's actualy the oppisite we have been helping each other stay well clear of her . It seems my ex has been contacting her ringing her on a unknown number wen she's been at work at early hours of the morning . It's actually interesting to watch there behaviours and there patterns .
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