Difficult Time

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

I am learning about BPD. It has been validating to understand why my husband behaves the way he does. I am considering divorce.

[ErinOMalley]

I am learning about BPD. It has been validating to understand why my husband behaves the way he does. I am considering divorce.

[Mutt]

Hi EOM,



I'd like to welcome you to bpdfamily. I can relate with your post. I had never heard of BPD until a family member told me that they think that my wife has BPD. I found that out several years after I first met her and her emotional dysregulation, push / pull behavior and dissociations was confusing, frustrating and heartbreakig. When my mom mentioned BPD  all of the pieces of the puzzle started to make sense.

I'm glad that you decided to join us. It helps to talk to people that share similar experiences. Please understand that you don't have go through this journey alone, it helps to talk.

How long have you been married? Do you have kids together? Do you have support from family members and friends? Do they understand what you're going through? What do you for self care?

[joeramabeme]

Hi EOM

I would like to join Mutt in welcoming you to BPD Family.   

I found out about BPD by Google'ing a question about my wifes behaviors and the result page was littered with BPD.  That felt intimidating so I closed the page.  A couple months later I Googled a different question about my wife and the same result page appeared.  "Borderline"; what the heck did that mean - sounded scary. 

Somehow I ended up on this board and am so grateful I did.  I have learned so much about what was going on and was able to deeply understand some of the why's and also, why I was so confused about how to resolve our constant argument and fighting.

Have you had a chance to read through some of the articles on this site or get any books?  My favorite is "Stop Walking on Eggsehlls".  It is an easy read and really presents the topic clearly.

Do you have children?

JRB