Hi Lolaloo,
I'd like to welcome you to bpdfamily. I'm sorry to hear that. We're not doctors and cannot diagnose but what we can look at are BPD traits. My ex wife is undiagnosed.
A pwBPD have all or nothing thinking and see the world and the people in it as black and white. Splitting is a defense mechanism that protect the ego from anxiety and stress. She can't control it, you can't control it either, I suggest to weather these storms and take this time to focus on you with self care.
BPD BEHAVIORS: Splitting.
I'm just speculating when i'm saying this, sometimes we may never understand the behaviors of our pwBPD or we may be in the ballpark area, she may be projecting her anger or she may be viewing you as a hyper critical parent, a pwBPD are hyper sensitive think about a HSP ( highly sensitivity person) Maybe now is not the right time to tackle therapy.
You could also utilize this time where she's pushed you away to lear as much a out the disorder as you can, you'll quickly see the benefits and become proficient over time. You could learn communication skills that help partners with BPD traits. A pwBPD feel low self worth and low self esteem, they anticipate that everyone in their lives with reject and abandon them and are self destructive in their ways when they reject their partners firsr.
Communication Skills - Validation.
PS The lessons are to the right side of the board
