Help me understand this... .
Hi Lynn324
Sorry to hear that you are struggling with the loss of your r/s.
Understanding a pwBPD is not easy to do because their understanding and construct of relationships is very different than non's. A fear of abandonment and enmeshment are the primary fears. It is confusing to us because they want to be loved and have someone close to them and yet this desire also represents their deepest fear. This is what sets up a push/pull dynamic that we get caught up in. Unfortunately, the closer you become, the more triggered and pronounced the fears become.
How long has it been since you last spoke with her?  :)o you have friends that you are able to share your hurt with?