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[EdnaMode]

 Hi this is my first post and I am relieved that finally I hopefully get to chat with other people who are experiencing the same problems as me.
I have been in a relationship with my partner for nearly six years and I love him very much. I guess there was always something different about him but he was extremely out going and flamboyant and very confident. Everyone noticed him and liked him. But gradually that began to change and about 4 years ago he became a totally different person, not over night but slowly his personality changed. He has been diagnosed with literally every mental illness and the first was schizophrenia, bio polar and the list goes on but now the conclusion is BPD. He has been on a variety of anti psychotics and antidepressants, at times they have made him worse.
It's heart breaking to watch someone you love suffer and not be able to help them or understand what's actually happening to them and why?
He can be so loving and kind and the next minute so suspicious and nasty. We have tried to get DPT for him and nothing is available. The lack of emotional support is awful and it's very difficult for family members to understand or even except. I have to be honest I am finding it mentally draining at times because some days there are no boundaries to his constant thoughts and feelings.
His moods change rapidly.
What I want to know is, will he recover?
With the right help and support can he recover from this disorder?
Does anyone has any good advice or suggestions?
I feel isolated and very alone because it's very difficult to go out without him getting upset or if we go out together he struggles with social anxiety so we end up coming home.

Look forward to chatting to you

EdnaMode 

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[Mutt]

Hi Ednamode, 



I'd like to welcome you to  bpdfamily. I'm glad that you decided to join us. 

‎The lack of emotional support is awful and it's very difficult for family members to understand or even except. 

It's difficult for people to traps the erratic and what seems to be illogical behavior. If someone has a broken leg you can clearly see the injury, mental illness is not visible, BPD is an invisible disorder and it's directed at the people closest to a pwBPD. if you're not close to the person then the way that the person conducts themselves is no different then anybody else.

I can understand how invalidating it feels when family members don't understand what you're going through. I wish people would put more effort or be more open minded when it comes to mental illness. 

There's a reason why your H acts the way he does it helps to read as much as you can about the disorder you'll quickly see the benefits and become proficient over time. 
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‎I am finding it mentally draining at times

What do you do for self care?

What I want to know is, will he recover?

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People do recover from BPD . Everyone that suffers from the disorder is different, with different traits and severity along a continuum. If we set the mental illness aside, i'd like to add awarness, just like a non a pwBPD have different levels of awareness. You'd have to sense that there's something wrong about you inside and you'd have want to get better. 

A compassionate support system goes a long way, it helps when a pwBPD feel like they're not navigating through this alone, just like us. It helps to share it with someone. BPD is a life long mental illness, there ways that we can accept it and ways to communicate that helps when you're in a r/s with a pwBPD‎.
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