The last three yrs, I have been in an on-and-of relationship with a man, who I deeply believe, suffers from high functioning bpd. We are both middleaged and I guess I therefor consider the situation to be even more chaotic… meaning I/we should know better. He recently broke up with me for the 6th time! And how crazy it may sounds, I still think about being reunited with him! When things are good they truly are, WE are good! Then he, like out of the blue, becomes doubtful about us, about our relationship.It always starts with him zooming out, splitting I suppose. His mood swings are fast and the impulsivity is always present. In between he is the most loving person and, despite him leaving me over and over, I still can’t seem to be objectiv… the fact that this dynamic won’t change?. He avoids medical help, mainly because of health anxiety, but also doesn’t trust therapists etc. I am stumbling in the dark and need support/advice to move on…Please share if you’ve been through something similar…
