Dealing with estrangement

[AngelofItaly]

Hi
This is my first post. My 30 year old adult daughter with bpd has just gone no contact. I am devastated. She has gone from phoning me literally every day to this.
I think I am to blame for this last row - I was very clingy with my husband and had a row with him and my daughter came in the middle. But usually I don't think I do provoke these rows. In any case I am happy to put my hand up to anything I am doing wrong in the situation.
I miss her horribly but at the same time don't miss the volatility.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[BPDstinks]

Hi!  I am terribly sorry to hear your news!  Short version, my daughter (referred to as pwBPD) cut ties with me, her father, her sister & her beautiful nieces 3 years ago....she texts when she needs something; I know it is the WORST feeling in the world; especially during the holidays (her birthday was the worst, the first year....I could not get out of bed, I was so sad) (I am tearing up typing it) I now see a therapist who specializes in parents of children/adult children with BPD & am learning how to accept feeling JOY (it seemed unnatural, as I am always sad about my daughter!) feel free to reach out, if you like!