These things just never end do they?

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It's been rather calm for a while. I work in clinical research and supervise the human subjects research program. My ex works for the non-profit managing funds from sponsored clinical trials and grant applications. Every year there is something called 'research week'. Studies can advertise for recruitment, there are presentations, a service wide bbq. Prior to the explosive end to my relationship I haven't been attending these things as I would. It seems she didn't either last year.

Had a prep call today and everyone kept throwing my name out there as the person to work alongside my ex. Hell no. I am not sitting shoulder to shoulder with that person after everything. And maybe she starts rumors about things I did or whatever. Not to mention the anxiety I'd have interacting with her like some stranger who hasn't tried to have me arrested, or punched me. No, no, no. Then a study coordinator who never really messages me sends me an IM 'hey looks like they really want you at the table with non-profit'. Random thing to just say. And I'm not grilling at the bbq anymore so I can see her parade around laughing with everyone. Keep in mind our jobs do NOT intersect at all. There's zero reason for me to have to work with her in any capacity. I am subject matter upper management, she is an assistant at the non-profit. Add to that she's said she doesn't feel 'safe' around me...so why so eager and willing to be within a foot of me? Again, no.

The original agreement from my boss is we'd have no direct contact. So far haven't. So here goes my email to my boss that is going to probably ignite this again:

Hi 'boss',

I do not want to work near 'her' during Research Week. Given the history of physical assault, police involvement, and accusations that have been made against me, I think it’s in everyone’s best interest if we are not near each other.

Thank you,

'me'

[Me88]

It's been rather calm for a while. I work in clinical research and supervise the human subjects research program. My ex works for the non-profit managing funds from sponsored clinical trials and grant applications. Every year there is something called 'research week'. Studies can advertise for recruitment, there are presentations, a service wide bbq. Prior to the explosive end to my relationship I haven't been attending these things as I would. It seems she didn't either last year.

Had a prep call today and everyone kept throwing my name out there as the person to work alongside my ex. Hell no. I am not sitting shoulder to shoulder with that person after everything. And maybe she starts rumors about things I did or whatever. Not to mention the anxiety I'd have interacting with her like some stranger who hasn't tried to have me arrested, or punched me. No, no, no. Then a study coordinator who never really messages me sends me an IM 'hey looks like they really want you at the table with non-profit'. Random thing to just say. And I'm not grilling at the bbq anymore so I can see her parade around laughing with everyone. Keep in mind our jobs do NOT intersect at all. There's zero reason for me to have to work with her in any capacity. I am subject matter upper management, she is an assistant at the non-profit. Add to that she's said she doesn't feel 'safe' around me...so why so eager and willing to be within a foot of me? Again, no.

The original agreement from my boss is we'd have no direct contact. So far haven't. So here goes my email to my boss that is going to probably ignite this again:

Hi 'boss',

I do not want to work near 'her' during Research Week. Given the history of physical assault, police involvement, and accusations that have been made against me, I think it’s in everyone’s best interest if we are not near each other.

Thank you,

'me'

[Under The Bridge]

she's said she doesn't feel 'safe' around me...so why so eager and willing to be within a foot of me?

That alone is reason to be keeping your distance. Who knows what she might say or accuse you of after working wth you? Has the study coordinator - who you say you normally never deal with - been influenced by her to try and get you on the scheme?

Seems strange that, knowing your history with her, management seem happy for you both to work together.

Hope you can find out what's behind this - seems a little fishy to me.