Sitting with the discomfort…

[thankful person]

47 years old and I finally can see it, the people-pleasing, the codependency, the highly sensitive to rejection trait, which has woven its way into all my relationships and areas of my life. I finally understand what they mean when they say, you need to sit with the discomfort of other people not being happy with you or for whatever reason.

Any advice as I go about this journey? I’m recognising the physical feelings of discomfort when I have upset someone (whether it’s real or imagined). What is next? I don’t have a therapist and it’s still not something I’m ready for, given how hard it would be to go against my dbpd wife’s wishes. I do realise this contradicts what I’ve just said about my intentions to improve. One step at a time…

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