Hi Abby2061,

I'd like to join Roberto516 and mar356 and welcome you to bpdfamily. I'm glad that you have found us, it helps to talk to people that can relate with you and offer you guidance and support. I hear you with it being a huge relief to find others like you and to be able to share what you're going through with people that get it. I recall reaching out for help with family and friends and the advise that I received was good if my ex wife wasn't disordered, they meant well, I felt like I was going through an experience that was so different then everybody else. You're not alone.
How long have you been in a r/s with your pwBPD ( person with BPD ) Is your pwBPD diagnosed? Do you have kids together?