Confused by my partners words and actions

[stguy]

I'm recently married to a lady that was diagnosed with BPD a few years ago. She was in therapy but has virtually dropped it, making a few attempts over the past year. There was a suicide attempt recently in which I was thankfully able to intervene and prevent. Since then it has become increasingly difficult to be around her. I have become the enemy, bad person, controller, abuser and even accused of infidelity which she communicated to some friends and family members.

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[Mutt]

Hi stguy,  



I'd like to welcome to the family. I'm glad that you decided to join us. I can imagine how scary preventing SI would be. Do you have local numbers handy in case of? It helps to read as much as you can about the disorder, the behaviors are confusing but there is a fundamental logic there.

A pwBPD view the world in black and white with no in between, for example good people have bad qualities and bad people have good qualities, they shift back and forth between idealization and devaluation, and it sounds like you've going through the latter at the moment

BPD BEHAVIORS: Splitting

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