Emotional music

I think I must be the only person in America that hates Bruno Mars.

After one break up (my ex initiated... .she initiated all of them) my ex returned after a dalliance with someone else. She told me this song reminded her of me and was applicable to our situation:

When I Was Your Man (lyrics)

My pride, my ego, my needs, and my selfish ways
Caused a good strong woman like you to walk out my life
Now I never, never get to clean up the mess I made, oh
And it haunts me every time I close my eyes
It all just sounds like ooh, ooh ooh ooh ooh
Mm, too young, too dumb to realize
That I should have bought you flowers
And held your hand
Should have gave you all my hours
When I had the chance
Take you to every party 'cause all you wanted to do was dance
Now my baby's dancing
But she's dancing with another man

The funny thing is she left me for another and I thought this was her "apology song" to she was actually saying MY pride, MY ego, MY selfish ways were what caused her to leave me. This was clarified when she dumped me once again months later.

Sometimes it amazes me the profound effect music has on emotions. I absolutely love music. I used to sing opera and have an appreciation from everything from the Big Band Era to heavy metal. The irony is I've been invited to several Bruno Mars concerts and this just kills it for me. . The song actually makes me agitated. Yes, I should have bought you flowers so the next day you could cheat on me and call me an a-hole. .

The best was the week of the final discard my ex loved this ditty. She told me this reminded her of us too:

Honey I'm Good-Andy Grammer
[Verse 1:]
It’s been a long night here, and a long night there
And these long long legs are damn near everywhere
(hold up now)
You look good, I will not lie
But if you ask where I’m staying tonight
I gotta be like oh, baby, no, baby, you got me all wrong, baby
My baby’s already got all of my love

[Chorus:]
So nah nah honey, I’m good
I could have another but I probably should not
I got somebody at home,
And if I stay I might not leave alone
No, honey, I’m good
I could have another but I probably should not
I gotta bid you adieu

As she dumped me for someone she ironically hooked up with at a bar (a mutual friend we met at the same time).



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