Hi Larmoyant.
We both know it's over now.
You can say what you will, but I know you let us down.
I couldn't have tried harder and I loved you deeply.
All the best L. Be tough and loving. Try to transcend from time to time.
My BPD translator:
1. We BOTH know? This suggests he is either telling you how you feel or he is baiting you. Smells as if seeking to see whether you have anything left to supply him... .to pick the bones, so to speak.
2. You can say "what you will"... .very dismissive, seems like he isn't even interested in hearing a word you say. Now he KNOWS you let us down. Master baiter alert!
3. ?... .we can all try harder but trying too hard may be one of his issues and possibly he did Love you in his own way. I would caution into buying into it as true love. Again. All smells like bait.
4. "All the best" has absolutely zero sincerity with intimate partners. There is a clue. Be tough and loving sounds like he is givng you his idea of good advice to move forward and carry you through life... .you know, without him.
Try to transend from time to time I found really insulting when your intention is only to respond to this with kindness. Are you trying to kill him with kindness?... .it won't work.
To transcend in this context is to enlighten the mind, to be better than your original self, and to be the bigger person... .again he KNOWS you can't do it but asked you to try anyway... .see where this is headed?
He is baiting you for a response, the only question is are you going to comply with what he wants?
Honestly the "kindest" response is probably no response.