Is the question how will the ex react if they find out you're with someone new? In my situation I told her twice I was going on a date. One was true and the other was a lie i did as a childish way to make her feel something. The first time she demanded to know who she was. Even though I called the date off out of guilt she was persistent. This started the recycle. The second time she told me "well then we are back together now". I told her no.
She wants nothing to do with me anymore. But I guarantee you if she finds out I'm with any woman and she's still single she will get very angry.
When she started dating me and her ex texted her to say he was in a new relationship she was devastated. I still remember the look on her face sitting on the couch as she read the message aloud.
If this is your question. That's my experience.
Thanks Roberto
Yes that was the question. We have split before. Still been in contact and ive mentioned then i had dates. She always made me cancel them and suddenly wanted back in. I didnt know much about BPD then though. And i wasnt painted black.
I dont want a recycle. I dont want her to try and contact me. I dont want any of that pain again. But i just worry that if she thinks im dating, when its not going so well with the new gf, that she might turn up here.
She really is unpredictable and i believe her mental health is deteriorating a lot from what ive seen since she left and stopped taking her meds.
