BPD/NPD attachments

[bus boy]

I've read a lot about BPD and NPD and how they don't like to loose attachments. Xw kept me attached for years than discarded me 2 years ago when she met another man. Her discard was very cruel and heartless, since than she had been vicious and black hearted towards me but in a strange way keeps my family and I attached. Xw and her BF have done strange things, I ignore them, Xw harassed my sister, she ignores Xw but Xw doesn't ease up. A couple of weeks ago she made arrangements to finalize our divorce, ok that severs us, I thought only for s10 that detaches Xw and I but no, yesterday Xw served my sister with papers to appear in court, Xw assaulted my sister, charged Xw and Xw turns it all around in my sister than has my 15 year old niece served to appear in court as her witness against my sister. It's all so f****d up, we don't want anything to do with Xw, she hates my family and I but won't let up. We want her gone from our lives, we go out of our way to stay clear of Xw and she goes out of her way to follow us or watch us.

[Mutt]

Hi bus boy,


I'm sorry that you and you're family are going through a difficult time. I know that externally things will seem different for your exuBPDw, she's wearing a mask, a persona that she displays to the outside world and she doesn't trust others to have them see what's going on in the inside. A pwBPD don't grieve like you or I, grieving gets chanelled through acting out and anger.

We want her gone from our lives, we go out of our way to stay clear of Xw and she goes out of her way to follow us or watch us.

What I'd recommend for you is to contact the RCMP if you haven't done so or if you want to go that route if she's stalking you and your family. The vitriol and anger that she has directed at you and your family is going to die down, if she's taking your sister to court it still keeps an attachment there, it could be that she doesn't want to let go. So she could be going through the only avenue where she can still hold that attachment - court.

Pay no attention to your exuBPDw, the less attention that you give to her, the sooner that this will all go away. Also you may want to talk to the RCMP about a protective order if she's crossing boundaries. I hope that helps.