Love this! I know this is what my BPDex has done in the past. Entices me and makes me pursue. Enters reluctantly. Then tries to make it look like my idea when it is time to run away again. Like he was an unwilling participant in the recycle that he actually initiated.
Got this as well... .she is always "dangling" herself out there, looking for some sort of interaction.
Once was told I "put pressure on her" to get back with me. Such BS as I did the total opposite, accepted it was over, then she called me and stayed at mine, then I gave her space but was "available" as she had complained about not being available when she cheated on me. You can never win.
She later tried to recycle me after I helped her when her grandparents died and the following week said "I don't know what you want from this relationship". Answer: "nothing, you needed help, I helped you and I am now happy to give each other space again", at which point she quickly interrupted and told me she didn't want to get back together again. Shrugged shoulders and got up and left.
Now I just get emails (weekly) asking for a coffee, inevitably followed by an angry or dismissive email to push me away again.
I have now blocked her on SM and hopefully she'll give up when she doesn't get replies.
Going back to the original question... .I also get lots of indirect questions about what I am doing which are clearly aimed at finding out if I am seeing anyone. There is no upside in her finding out I am seeing someone, so I usually fob it off. It's all part of her wanting to keep the connection open, which can only happen if you're available (in her mind, as I would never go back having seen her from a distance).
