Family ties and abuse just info--

[Whoad]

I have had to masticate on a lot of info in last 20 days  and speaking with her family and the issues she holds...

Her grandmother, was abused as a child before WWII, she could not hold solid  relationships with more than one child. 7 kids all damaged. Children were split regularly and as well, castigated by the mother daily.  Even twins. Were split... and the difference there is, She has a somewhat normal Aunt. The normal aunt sees the splitting as it was in the past...

 There is now reported infidelity as of late due to genetic testing as well. WOW 1/2 family members ...

Her own mother is piece of work, a waif, and mental and emotional abuser... (my pwBPD father attests that his daughter is worse than his exwife... )

The other Aunt-BPD with Npd-lives across the ocean, she has split her own son and daughter... those kids don't talk to each other--daughter has split her brother black... .her son is good /her daughter is bad. She has been married. 2x the current husband they have been together for 30 yrs. children's came from First marriage...

The good Aunt (1/2 twin)- is the glue and only person whom holds my PwBPD in account.

I would've a year ago  attest that BPD is gentic, but we all who study this knows this is false, it a cycle of abuse that has spanned in this family generations. So very sad.

I have seen the damage, and at best I have held it bay for her kids sake... they are very great and well adjusted children except the last 20 days... I hope they are resilient and when they come back I will help them as much as I can... Mom will have to own a lot of this.

I hope she will...  
pray for them.

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[Tattered Heart]

Hi whoad,

It's so sad when to learn about the patterns of abuse that just keep going and going long into family history. My H family is the same. I see the results of it in all of his brothers and sisters in varying degrees. I hope that they can begin to find closure and healing in their relationships as they work through this.