Going through a rough time and need to be able to communicate... ughhhhh

[Depression = 72% of members]

I'm at my wits end.  Have kidney disease on dialysis and need my significant other to hear what I'm saying and not make it about hm.  His BPD is turned all the way up.  I don't know what to do.

[Suitegurl19]

I'm at my wits end.  Have kidney disease on dialysis and need my significant other to hear what I'm saying and not make it about hm.  His BPD is turned all the way up.  I don't know what to do.

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[pearlsw]

I understand how hard it is to feel like your SO, of all people, isn't really providing emotional support for you, especially at a time of such need on your part!

For the sake of your own health is there anyone else you can connect with that understands how you might be feeling these days? I imagine dialysis can be very physically and mentally taxing.  What helps you feel better?

Lately doing something as small as looking at cheerful words and beautiful pictures on Twitter makes me feel better, adds a little bit of hope to my day instead of feeling so isolated or hopeless. Do you have any strategies or want to brain storm some?

When my SO is being hateful and threatening breakups it gives me a lot of anxiety. Lately I can't eat when this happens and my own functionality begins to slip. Please know that you are not alone in the world. There are others in similar situations and we have a lot of empathy for your health! Take care Suitefgurl19!

[Harley Quinn]

Hi Suitegurl19 and Welcome! 

I'm sorry to hear you're having such a tough time, yet glad that you discovered the site as you'll get lots of support and valuable information here.  I'd encourage you to start with the lessons to the right, to help you to ease communication between you.  How long have you been in the relationship and is your SO diagnosed?

Keep reading and posting.  You'll find the membership very empathetic as many will relate to what you're experiencing and can share their own experiences and findings with you.  The articles are also really helpful and often answer our common questions.  Look after yourself and come here to let off steam whenever you need to.  We're listening.

Love and light x