... .There are a few things I struggle with though. One is the anger. It takes so little to ruin his whole day and he is angry for longer than most would be. He shuts down and does not talk at all. He retreats into his office and won't come out... .When he's not in this anger we are happy. I know he does love me... .I have no intentions of leaving him, I just need to make sure I stay healthy myself. Anyone else feel the same?
Hello @Hungryghosts
Thank you for sharing that. I am a newbie to this board as well. Much of what you wrote resonates with me. I am not married to my BPD, but we are discussing moving in together. We have known each other for 10 years, but our relationship had 2 false starts in 2006 and 2009, mainly due to the BPD-like episodes that I did not understand at the time. This time around I have actually researched BPD and believe he has this illness (though I have not told him, and as far as I know he is undiagnosed.) As I write this is actually sounds crazy to be considering moving in with him - but he makes me happy oherwise and our relationship has its many merits. Like you, I have no intention of leaving him, I just want to find ways to make sure I take care of myself. Loving him is rewarding but it is also incredibly draining at times.
Is your husband diagnosed? If so, does he seek treatment? How did he come to know he has BPD and how was that handled? I started another discussion thread earlier today asking for guidance as to how (or if I even should) bring this up to my loved one. It's a slippery slope... .
